How late in the evening is considered too late to text/email your T?

But Winenot has expressed her strong feelings towards him, she is the client - it's his job as the therapist to maintain boundaries. I think anyone in her position might well try to push boundaries and then experience anxiety that he's actively participating. Texting after midnight, while he knows she's high (for a non emergency) does seem a bit odd. Perhaps I'm biased, as everything I've heard about this man doesn't feel right to me - she is effectively trying to play a game (which is what a client will do, especially one going through strong ET) and he is playing right into it.

Sorry, I didn't realise this was an old thread. Hope you're ok winenot x

It seems all good and well at first, but have you read the many, many anxious posts that deal with:

- The therapist not replying back timely
- Disappointment with the content in the replies
- Misunderstanding on both ends
- Regrets about what was said via email or text

If you can manage between sessions and keep a connection, you're saving yourself a lot of headache and stress by not engaging.

My T1 allowed email communications, but wasn't consistent with replies. Emailing caused me more anxiety than what I was hoping to achieve with the email in the first place. I put up my own boundary that I wouldn't contact him unless it was an emergency. Generally, I was able to stick to it with a few lapses. Stress level went way down, even though it was hard to resist the impulse to email.

T2 hasn't said one way or another if she allows emails. If I need to reschedule, I text her. I'm not even going there.

Back to the original questions - I think emailing at any time is fine since T's will typically get to emails when they can. Non-emergency texting I would reserve for your T's normal business hours.