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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:15 PM
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I texted my therapist on Friday night (10P M) stating that I felt weird about our session that night at 7 PM), and that I didn’t really recognize myself. I told him that I didn’t want to bother him, but that I was really really lonely, and also, admittedly, a little stoned (He knows I smoke).

Anyway, he responded back around 12:30 AM that night telling me that he sensed some changes too, but that in his perception they were good ones and going in a positive direction, and that it “looked good on me.” Then he wanted to know what I saw/or felt instead. I responded back around 1 AM, and he never replied.

Anyway, do you guys think this is weird on his part? (the content of his reply, as well as the time?) Sometimes he responds to my messages, and sometimes he ignores them (and doesn’t bring them up in session). I also thought it really strange that we were corresponding so late in the evening. Truthfully, I didn’t even think I would get a response, especially since he knew I was under the influence.

What is the latest time in the evening any of you have ever communicated with your therapist outside of session? Usually I have a rule about only texting until about 8 PM…after that I consider it invading on their private time, and can be considered rude. Obviously, I wasn’t thinking clearly when I sent that message out at 10 PM. Thoughts?
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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:19 PM
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Latest, around 2 a.m., on the phone or texting.
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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:23 PM
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I never text the therapist for anything. I find texting to be intrusive not matter what. I don't let students or clients text me.
Email is less disruptive and I figure someone can get off their computer or just not check a work account after hours.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:25 PM
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I email at any time since T is able to read and respond whenever he likes; with a previous. T she would talk on the phone or email replies at any hour (pain kept her up so time wasn't a problem for her)

His reply seems to be addressing something different to what you were writing about though

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:28 PM
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I only email/phone my T.

For phone, I wouldn't call during/after supper hours. I would only call Monday through to Friday and not on the weekends at all.

For email, T can choose when to pick it up/check it and when it's a good time for him to respond, so I email whenever. A lot of the time, it's in the wee hours of the morning.

Texting is like phoning because most people have their phones on and will get notified when someone messages them. I wouldn't want anyone waking up from sleep because I texted late or early in the morning.

Since you made contact first, I don't think it's weird he responded or that he didn't respond after subsequent texts as it was really late. Often, therapists want YOU to bring this stuff up in session and be accountable for what happens in that therapeutic hour. Your therapist didn't do anything inappropriate from what you've said.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:34 PM
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I notice a pattern in this thread repeated on several over the past months and it seems like you're again setting him up to be deemed inappropriate... initiating an interchange and then trying to find his wrongdoing in it, with your excuse for crossing your own lines being that you got yourself stoned so you're not responsible.

What are you hoping to hear? That he's acting irresponsible with you? Do you feel like he's making it too hard for you to distance yourself? I imagine the intimacy is hard?

I've worked with my therapist as late as 1am.

The only person who can really answer your question though of course, would be him.

It's certainly not invading private time, because no one is forced to read emails or texts, nor to give out their number. You can't invade space you've been given permission to occupy unless he sets a new boundary which he hasn't.
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My exT didn't give out her personal numbers. I texted my current T Saturday at 7:30 pm because I was REALLY struggling to not self-harm. I felt really guilty about it, but in session today she said she was glad I texted her instead of hurting myself, and that I wasn't bothering her. She also said that people have called her at 3:00 am before. I guess it just depends on the T's boundaries.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 06:37 PM
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T never texts I have only texted her once to ask that if she has a few minutes could she call me. However, it had nothing to do my mental health but some work my kid was doing for her.

She has told me I could call her up until 10 pm I have only called her that late a couple of times a couple of years ago when we were working on childhood trauma and I was in a bad place.

95% of the time I contact her through email. I knew that she pretty much always has her email up to get messages. However, I don't interrupt other appointments or her personal life.

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My last therapist replied whenever she remembered to look at her email, which could be any time of day/day of the week. I think the latest she replied was after 10 pm, and she apologized for the late hour but was leaving town and wanted to respond. In other words, there was nothing to read into it as far as the hour of day.
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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 07:10 PM
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I know mine turns her phone off when she goes to sleep, so basically I can text anytime but I know I won't get a reply until she's able to, whether that's first thing in the morning or first chance she gets.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 07:26 PM
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Well I email at anytime; I think about 3 am was the latest. But she replies when she checks it. One time I did email her around 11 pm and she happened to be on and replied about 20 minutes later.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 08:34 PM
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Oh I feel awful, my last therapist allowed emails and texts and I have emailed and texted her throughout the day. She never complained and of course she sometimes got back to me the next day, and I figured she reads it when she reads it (I was not expecting an email back right away anyways). But now I wonder if the emails or texts woke her up (like maybe she had to check them because maybe a client could be suicidal).

Darn it, I feel so bad now. Stupid me. It never occurred to me, I was so in my own world.
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My former T asked me not email her as she knew I didn't want a lot in my file. I'm hoping the next will allow texts.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 10:31 PM
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I know that my T turns her phone off around 9 PM, so even if I did text or call, she wouldn't get it until the next morning. I email my T whenever I decide I need to. She can check email whenever she want's, so I don't worry too much about when I send it.

The latest I've ever sent a text was around 8:30 PM.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 11:00 PM
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I've never had a T that allows texts so I park those thoughts in an email or phone message. Usually it is enough to let me sleep peacefully enough.
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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 11:01 PM
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Mine and I text all the time. I don't worry about the time of day because I know she could put her phone on silent if she wanted to. So if she sees my text at night, it's her choice whether to respond and I don't need to feel guilty for when I text her.

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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 11:12 PM
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With my 1st T I used to email stuff I couldn't say in session and text for appt stuff. My self imposed rule was to only communicate during his business hours which was like noon till 9pm weekdays. Never communicated on weekends or his mid week day off.
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Default Sep 22, 2014 at 11:16 PM
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Ummm, e-mail? Never too late. I have never texted and have only called his personal number via invitation. Last phone call we had was at like 10pm, and he called me (had set up time via e-mail first)

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Default Sep 23, 2014 at 07:49 AM
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I don't email.

text- unless its an emergency, I would guess at 8pm.

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Default Sep 23, 2014 at 10:40 AM
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I never text or e-mail my therapist. I always call my pdoc for an emergency. I DO call my T and leave a message if I did something good we had just talked about..."I just wanted you to know I made exercise twice this week! No need to call me back."

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