[ombrétwilight]

I'm going to list 3 because I can't decide.

1. Her eyes - she has really beautiful eyes that made me truly realise the meaning of the term "window to the soul". They're the only ones that have managed to pierce through my walls and seen me for who I am, then filled the void with all the concern I so desperately need. I've never seen her with eye makeup but of course she doesn't need any

2. Her voice/laugh - could listen to it all day!

3. Her composure - I know all Ts are trained to possess this but I still love how her very presence is like an anchor for me.

[Partless]

Oh that's cute, it's almost like love, the way you describe her eyes.

[HazelGirl]

I will list more than three because I am bad at making decisions...

1. Her rock-solid consistency - She is ALWAYS there, and always the same person. She doesn't change or shift or act all moody. She is always herself, completely.
2. Her care and compassion - She does genuinely feel compassion towards me, is genuinely invested in my care, and is authentically doing what is best for me.
3. Her vulnerability - This scared me for quite a while, but she is completely honest and open and vulnerable. I asked her at one point whether she would ever lie to me, and she promised that she wouldn't. She said she is really bad at it, so she doesn't try, haha. She is willing to share all of herself with me, and models openness by being open with me, thereby inviting me to be open with her as a response.
4. Her availability - I can text her any time of day or night and she will respond when she can. I can call if I am dealing with an emergency. And she reads all my texts and responds to almost all of them. I know she is always within reach if I need, and if I feel disconnected or clingy or scared, she will reassure me.
5. Her experience - She's been a therapist for more than 20 years. She knows what she is doing, and it shows in her capabilities in handling my case and in her comfort with everything I bring into therapy. She is incredibly skilled, and persistent with trying new things constantly to help me out.

[ombrétwilight]

Originally Posted by Partless

Oh that's cute, it's almost like love, the way you describe her eyes.

I guess if I was a dude I would probably be in love with her. As it goes, I do love her a lot - but as part of maternal transference - not romantically! (:

[justdesserts]

The fact that he appreciates me.

[Bells129]

1) Her intelligence. She's very smart and wise, I find it makes me more attracted to her.
2) Her voice. Gaaaah, her voice. I love it. She's very well spoken and slightly posh. I love her voice.
3)Her kindness. She's a good hearted person, and she's always so kind and caring towards me. And she always gives me a kind smile, it puts me at ease.

I could probably write more than 3, but I will leave it at that.

[dark_sweetie]

Just her whole personality, I just feel at home with her like I never have with another T and not really with another person. I feel like we're 2 kids in school or something, chatting during recess and looking at the sky. By that I mean that we are just swimming along in this river called life. I don't really care where we're going when I'm with her, I just want to enjoy the moment, feel the water and sun on my skin. I don't know. It's really cool.

[Willowleaf]

Consistency and reliability

[Ambra]

Her voice that always calms me down.
She is genuine. Once she was "in trouble" with something I had stated when she was trying to bring me back to earth and she took some time to think instead of trowing some standars answer to my reasoning. That vulnerability and honesty surprised me and I felt that I was in the right hands and T wasn't trying to fool me with an easy fix.
She truly cares. Sometimes she comes up with something for me. A book or some ideas.
Her eyes that smile with her.

[Partless]

Originally Posted by ombrétwilight

I guess if I was a dude I would probably be in love with her. As it goes, I do love her a lot - but as part of maternal transference - not romantically! (:

I wish one day I can mean that much to somebody. Though not through maternal transference.

Anyhow, I can't think of anything about my T (the last one, currently on break from seeing a therapist). But I'd have stay was the stability of the person, the predictability, that you could rely on them.

[sweepy62]

She is intelligent.
Willing to way way beyond the surface, she digs to go to the root of things. T1 and t2 did not.
She love art and music.

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[Can't Stop Crying]

he is so unbelievably patient and stayed with the process when many others would have thrown in the towel...

[junkDNA]

his twisted humor that is so much like mine.

his randomness. we talk about random things.

he is consistent, always.

he reassures me when i am scared and paranoid.

his beard. lol

and like Can't Stop Crying said....he never gave up on me even when i gave him a million reasons to

[stopdog]

She stays back.

[HowDoYouFeelMeow?]

I love this thread! There are so many things I love and appreciate about my T. Before our last session, I typed up a list of 20 of them (that's all that would fit on a single sheet of paper). In session we talked for a bit, and then I told her "thank you" for all of her feedback, and that I have some feedback for her. I gave her the printed list. She read it, was very happy, asked if she could give me a hug (of course I said yes!), and said she wanted to frame it and hang it up somewhere. Maybe you can do this for your T's? Although it's a one-way relationship, I see no harm in this. As a matter of fact, it could help you because the T will see the things you value and keep up those behaviors.

Here are a couple of the list items:
---You are teaching me how to say no, even though I’m not good at it… yet. And you taught me to add that “yet”.
---You laugh at my jokes, even when they are probably not funny.

[BlessedRhiannon]

Hmmm - there's a few things:

1. Her consistency - I never have to guess with T, she's always there and always the same person in sessions and on the phone
2. Her calmness - really self-explanatory. She is always very calm and still when I'm around her, which my anxiety greatly appreciates.
3. Lack of judgement
4. Both her experience and willingness to learn new things - she has a wealth of experience, but that doesn't stop her from considering things from a new point of view or being open to researching/learning new things if she finds her experience isn't enough
5. Her respect for my boundaries

[Petra5ed]

I can't stop at one because I have no self control... His cute face, seeing him immediately makes me feel better about being alive. His smile, makes me happy. He is predictably nice, I can't imagine saying hi and him scowling at me, I can't imagine him suddenly turning on me leaving me to wonder what happened. He cares about me, or does a good job pretending. He is his own person, and I like that person. He's got interests and hobbies and I like who he is. I think he's smart and interesting. I like hearing him talk, sometimes I listen too. I love him so much that I love everything about him.

[HazelGirl]

Originally Posted by HowDoYouFeelMeow?

I love this thread! There are so many things I love and appreciate about my T. Before our last session, I typed up a list of 20 of them (that's all that would fit on a single sheet of paper). In session we talked for a bit, and then I told her "thank you" for all of her feedback, and that I have some feedback for her. I gave her the printed list. She read it, was very happy, asked if she could give me a hug (of course I said yes!), and said she wanted to frame it and hang it up somewhere. Maybe you can do this for your T's? Although it's a one-way relationship, I see no harm in this. As a matter of fact, it could help you because the T will see the things you value and keep up those behaviors.

Here are a couple of the list items:
---You are teaching me how to say no, even though I’m not good at it… yet. And you taught me to add that “yet”.
---You laugh at my jokes, even when they are probably not funny.

I love that idea! I'm always telling my T that I appreciate her, but I love the idea of doing this to tell her why.

[nottrustin]

Great thread!!

1) That I have never felt like "just a client" with her. I have told her this a couple of times. She has helped me in ways that for many would be crossing way over boundaries. It works for us though.

2) She never judges me or my choices. When I beat myself up for choices or issues I am having she is so compassionate and understanding. She tells me repeatedly that how I am handling things is normal and while maybe not the best choices she understands the reasoning. She will help me work on it until I get to a place where I feel comfortable. All the while she compliments my strength especially for bringing up the topic.
3)While I think there is some maternal transference on my part it is not because I wish she were my mother. I had an amazing mother who died way to young. One thing I miss most about my mom is having her maternal guidance especially when it comes to parenting. T offers me that guidance as an older female with experience. This past Mother's day I gave her a card that just said "Thank you for helping me to be the mother I want to be"

[Abe Froman]

In no particular order

She dresses nice

She's accommodates me with her schedule

She tells me why we can't meet at certain times, because of family obligations, and understanding why something is helps me rather than having to accept it on face value

Might sound a little weird, but even though she isn't that much older than me, she is a mom, and she sometimes says things that sound like a mother should say to their kids(positive things) and I didn't get that growing up.

[musial]

I could list a lot of things but the first one that came to mind is just the depth of caring that my T shows me in the way he speaks and acts.

[coolibrarian]

I, too, could make a list. But the first thing that comes to mind is her voice.

[rainbow8]

There are so many! I love her eyes, her hair, and her smile. I like to look at her.

I appreciate her flexibility, especially in giving me a reduced rate when I no longer had insurance that she accepted.

I like her casual, easygoing personality.

I love the way she compliments me on my artwork and my baked goods that I sometimes give her. I appreciate that she has 2 of my paintings displayed in her office, and tells me that people always admire one of them.

I like that she does more than talk therapy, and that she has worked hard to earn her certifications.

Most of all, I like holding her hand!

[ScarletPimpernel]

I love everything about my T. Even the things that irritate me or things she does that I don't like... They make her who she is and contribute to all the other things about her. But for a list:

Favorite things I love:
1. Her personality: she has a great sense of humor. She is also very caring and empathetic.
2. Her physical appearance: I love her eyes. They are beautiful bright blue (it makes it a little easier to look her in the eyes when we're talking).
3. Expressions: I love the sound of her voice and all her tones. It's very clear, but soothing. I also love her smile. I have issues recognizing people, and I recognize her by her smile.
4. Intelligence: I have never met someone who can hold and follow and predict a conversation with me. She almost never has to stop to think; it just comes naturally to her. And to see how she applies multiple concepts she's teaching me all at once to our therapy...I'm in awe of that.

[Asiablue]

Right now my favourite things about her is that she's gone on holiday.