[nottrustin]

I know I am probably just expecting to much but right now I am frustrated with not only my therapist but also friends and family. My husband had major (not life threatening) surgery. Going in the doctor did not know how invasive the surgery would be as MRI wasn't completely clear. Also hubby doesn't handle medications well and in the past has been very sick after surgery. She wrote down the date of his surgery in her appointment book and mentioned the date multiple times over the last few weeks as she knew how stressed I have been. I was hoping she might reach out to me...however she hasn't and neither has anybody else.

[kaliope]

I am sorry that you did not have a support system at this time when you really needed it. it was thoughtless of others not to reach out to you. I am glad that you posted. take care.

[stopdog]

I hope your husband is doing well.

[SnakeCharmer]

I'm sorry you're going through this difficult time and hope your H is soon on the road to recovery. I know from experience how lonely and scary it can feel to be waiting for calls that don't come.

When my H had life-threatening cancer surgeries, I emailed everyone before, during and after the surgery to keep them updated. I needed the support and didn't want to sit waiting for people to get in touch with me because I knew I would be in danger of sinking emotionally if I expected them to do the "right" thing, with only me knowing what was going to feel right for me at any particular moment.

I strongly suggest you reach out to your T and family and friends who know about the surgery. Give them an update. I discovered people were waiting nervously to hear from me and were worried about bothering me at a critical time with calls or messages. They appreciated the updates and I appreciated the support, which probably would not have seemed evident if I'd waited.

Please take good care of yourself while under this stress. Be sure to stay hydrated, I don't know why, but hanging out in hospitals seems to dry everything out. Hope you get some sleep tonight and your H will be okay and not too uncomfortable.

I wish you the best.

[SnakeCharmer]

nottrustin, you were on my mind first thing this morning. I hope you were able to get some rest and good food and your H is doing okay.

Hope you have a good day, with no complications or excessive worries. Take care. I know you'll be taking care of your H and I hope you'll remember to take care of yourself, too.

[nottrustin]

Thank you everybody. I needed somebody to "listen"

Fortunately, hubby is doing okay. He is home and starting to be able to stand up for short periods of time . He is very dependent on me to do most things for him. It is exhausting but it is temporary. As I was setting him up this morning before heading to work (beverages, food, meds etc all in reach). It made me realize that for many couples this is what some couples deal with for years.