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Old Oct 29, 2014, 07:48 PM
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I try not to email her but I usually do and she is quite good about it. I find I almost have to sit on my hands to stop from emailing right after a session. As the week goes on it gets better and the urge to email goes away. I just need to get through the few hours after I see her to when I get to bed.
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 07:53 PM
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when i get off work to tell him about rude customers or coworkers

when i want to explain something to him but its too long for a text

when i find an interesting article to share with him
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 07:55 PM
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Usually at 4am
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 08:04 PM
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Usually at 4am
Same!

In the middle of the night/way early morning. Btwn 12-4am. My T is actually shocked when I email at any other time.

But my desire to email is at any time. If I'm upset, something good happens, I want to disclose something, anything really. I like feeling like I'm maintaining a connection even if she doesn't respond. But...I must limit myself and save it only for reassurance, updates, and pictures.
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 08:07 PM
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Right after a session and drunk
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 08:27 PM
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My T does only calls, but I get your point. For me it's when I'm dealing with self-harm issues the most. Normally I'll wait and wait and wait by the time I reach out I want to slit my wrists. I have called once in June, July and September. Now I don't allow myself to reach out at all because I need to stop relying on her.
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 09:16 PM
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Friday evening through Monday morning. These are the times I am not at work, but alone, the most depressed, the most suicidal, and at risk the most for SI. She doesn't accept emails. I sometimes call her office to listen to her voice on the answering machine. I wish she would call back for just a minute to ask if I'm okay since I won't see her til Friday. I would like her to care.
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Old Oct 29, 2014, 09:17 PM
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Right after the session.

When connected to the airplane wi-fi. (Too much time to think. I start to realize things and make connections.)
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 05:15 AM
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2-4am when I'm anxious, after sessions, and usually at some point on the weekend. T is good about it but she only does email once a day -in the very early morning.
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 11:42 AM
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I try not to email her but I usually do and she is quite good about it. I find I almost have to sit on my hands to stop from emailing right after a session. As the week goes on it gets better and the urge to email goes away. I just need to get through the few hours after I see her to when I get to bed.
I just emailed T. I don't email her very often, because she "doesn't do therapy via email," but when I want or need to talk to her, when I am at work, I can't because there is no privacy in my office. I usually send her an email then. I acknowledge that she doesn't do therapy via email, but I do ask her to let me know she's read it. Today I also asked her, after I told her what is going on, that it would be helpful if she could think of something to say that might help.

I'm seeing her again on November 7th. I don't know if it would be possible to get an earlier (or additional) appointment, and I'm not sure I even want one. My wife said I should ask T for an appointment. I told T that, in the email. I don't know what T will say. Usually she just acknowledges that she's read the email. But sometimes, if I read and reread MY email to HER several times, it almost feel like I'm having a conversation with her.
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 01:54 PM
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Sometimes right after an appointment if something happens in relation to things we discussed in the appointment.

If it is because of anxiety or whatever that I need to talk about or at least mention it tends to happen on the weekends. I have a hard time on weekends as my schedule is less crazy and I have more time to think and feel.
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 02:21 PM
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Almost never,I'm content with not speaking with her until my next session (wasn't always that way) Maybe when I'm out of town but other than that,that's it!! My T also "doesn't do therapy via email" so I see no need to email her,I just happen to journal everything I want to talk to her about next session
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 03:57 PM
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My T doesn't like therapy by email and neither do I but I find after session I always have this urge to continue the discussion or say something else. It's so hard not to. I've started saving emails in my drafts and if it's still relevant later I'll bring it up next session.

But man those first few hours after session I'm so tempted to write.
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 04:10 PM
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Same!

In the middle of the night/way early morning. Btwn 12-4am. My T is actually shocked when I email at any other time.

But my desire to email is at any time. If I'm upset, something good happens, I want to disclose something, anything really. I like feeling like I'm maintaining a connection even if she doesn't respond. But...I must limit myself and save it only for reassurance, updates, and pictures.
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2-4am when I'm anxious, after sessions, and usually at some point on the weekend. T is good about it but she only does email once a day -in the very early morning.
I'm in this bunch, too. I'm at the biggest risk when I take my meds and then don't go to sleep within an hour. I end up sending gut-wrenchingly honest emails about how I'm feeling. Then I get an email from him in the morning and I'm like "Did I really email that.....".
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Old Oct 30, 2014, 04:21 PM
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I wish this was my problem!
I have problems with reaching out. I *want* to email my T all the time (and he says it's okay even) but I'm not able. I get anxious and panicky. I'm the same way with calling friends. The more I need the support, the less able I am to ask for it. So frustrating...

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Old Oct 31, 2014, 09:14 AM
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My T actually emailed me a reply! And it wasn't just to say "Yes, I read the email you sent me." She said she was sorry for [the issue I have right now], and then gave me some encouragement. It helped, a bit.
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Old Oct 31, 2014, 09:39 AM
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I do not consider it a risk but the time I am most likely to write to the first one is after she has been mocking or dismissive of me. I rarely want the therapist to respond and I often send it by regular mail rather than email. I never have the urge to write the second one I see.
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