[Amandasmom]

I been seeing my T for 4 years. I really like her. She's a good T. We been discussing why I can't use the same bathroom as she does (the bathroom only has 1 toilet in it). Yesterday in my session she asked why I can't use it. I said I wasn't sure. I thought about it today. It's because she makes me nervous plus I see her as an authority figure. I have social anxiety. I will discuss this with T next week. Does anyone feel nervous about their T and how do u handle it?

Thanks!

[ThisWayOut]

I'm sorry you are having such trouble with your t. I go through that a bit south my current t, but we make it a point to talk about it. Something about t reminds me of my dad, but I'm not 100% sure what it is. When I start to respond to her like I would my dad, we talk about what brought about that particular response that time. It helps to get reality checks around it.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I have social anxiety too. I will NOT use the bathroom on her floor. There are multiple stalls, but still...I don't want to even think about it. To me, having to use the restroom is extremely private. I don't want to run into her in there, hear anything, her hear anything. I know everyone has to use the restroom...but it's just too...idk... I use the restroom on a different floor.

But I'm also afraid to see my T anywhere else too

You had such a small number of replies, I'm surprised, are there people who aren't nervous around their T? Is it more common not be nervous than to be nervous? I am nervous and scared. This started week two, and is improving. My T and I assume this is how I felt around my mother when I was young. I'd hate to need to use her bathroom

[Ad Intra]

Talking to my t makes me nervous. I normally have my session at 9am and I'll get up at 7am to get ready. I don't need coffee thanks to the pre-session jitters. Normally I'll have a hard time eating and will have a stomach ache. I'll end up sipping hot mint tea on my way to session. I'm always up tight and nervous in the waiting room. Once I'm in her office I calm down some. By the end I'm exhausted and hungry (since I had no breakfast).

[growlycat]

I get nervous with both T's all of the time. Strangely, I get even more nervous if either T is acting more friendly or warm towards me. CBT T was practically beaming at me silently a week or two ago, and I felt like I couldn't look at him, even though I really wanted and needed the warmth in that moment. Not sure what it is about, besides my own self consciousness.

[Amandasmom]

Thanks. Seems like it a common theme we are afraid to use Ts bathroom. I wonder why?

[ThisWayOut]

Total guess here, and I'm making this up as I go, but I wonder if there is something that's just way too "intimate" about using the same bathroom. Like t will somehow pick up on an "echo" we leave and know just how horrible we really are? Or that t will not then want to use that bathroom because we've contaminated it?
I have a dislike of using the bathroom if anyone knows I'm going there. Certainly have issues with public restrooms in general. The restroom at t's office always felt safer somehow tough (well, only at one t's office. Others have been neutral or as uncomfortable as regular restrooms)... I did bump into our couples t once in the restroom (quite literally. It's a small room and she was on her way out as I was going in). I was totally embarassed because I felt like I had crossed some boundary by "daring" to need to use the restroom at the same time... totally irrational, I know. She didn't have issue with it, but I was certainly unnerved.
Anyway... just my random thoughts on it.

[precibus]

Actually I'm the same with T and bathroom issues... I'm too embarrassed to ask her if I can use her bathroom (would rather wait and hold it for 2 hours till I get home), though I know other clients do.

No idea why though... and I'm really surprised someone brought it up, I thought it was just me!

[gloamingone]

Very interesting. I've been pretty comfortable with most of my T's, but my pdoc scares the CRAP out of me. I have to bring my boyfriend and let him talk to her while I barely speak. I tried to switch pdocs and was told they didn't have anyone else for me. So I bite the bullet every couple months and drag myself in.

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