when therapists share too much >_<

Good job.....that was the first step in stepping away......if you do ever have any contact with her in the future (which I would hope would never happen), I would say.....The intake took so long & I was so exhausted when I got home, I got distracted with other things I had to get done.....no time to email.......

But I'm sure by the time you ever might end up in contact with her that will be all in the past & forgotten.

You don't have to email.....with the schedule for your partial & I know how exhausted I was after I had gone to the partials I've been in.....all I did was come home & crash from exhaustion.

Don't even worry about that you promised to email....you did it under duress......& you know that means that you don't have to keep that promise.

My response (admittedly maybe not out loud) would be 'we don't always get what we want' ha!

I wouldn't get back in touch with her... hopefully the program sets you up with someone good week can help you keep her out of your way! She just sounds so scary... I wonder if she was like that as a real t... or if the life coach part let's get feel ok with being so pushy.

Yep, partial is exhausting!
Haha on the 'not get what you want' comment
I think she even said she'd email me; but even she knows that's out of bounds! Or at least she used to. Maybe she's forgetting T etiquette from the lesions on her brain?
Well- more boundary practice for me, right? (She says unenthusiastically).

Can you look at it as practice? (Like, "what a great opportunity for me to get some good rounds in practicing boundaries... let me practice saying 'No. Nope. Uh-uh. Not going to happen. Buh-bye. Lose my number.' ") I don't know, sometimes framing it that way helps me...

Can you think about the fact that really... there's no reason for you to care what she thinks of you at this point. You could literally cuss her out, tell her she's the biggest fool on the planet, tell her that she absolutely is too nutty to be passing herself off as a T... etc... and whatever her reaction would be to that is... TOTALLY OK!

Because she can't control you! And because at this point, she's no longer relevant to your life. Her statements, wishes, demands, and craziness aren't your problem (not that they ever were... but).

But either way... I'm truly relieved and happy for you. I hope you find the next part (which involves just ignoring any contact she tries to initiate and not responding to her at all) much much easier.

Good luck!

Yes. You're right. And I need to delete the internalized tape of her voice- the one that is keeping me awake (it's 2:22am), referring to tomorrow's partial hospital as "internment, institutionalized police state inprisonment". Clueless! I've done these before. She's just wacked.

It's no wonder she lost her license......you seriously NEED a professional.....your previous T would be devistated if she knew that you ended up with someone like this pathetic life coach in place of a professional T.....actually a psychologist......they wouldn't assign me to anything less & I don't have 1/2 the issues that you are working on.

I was lucky because I had heard really good things about the local community mental health group in the neighboring town (wouldn't go to the one in my own town....didn't need people talking since most didn't know what I had gone through before moving here even though I was open about it). The upper level assigns the appropriate psychologist, LCSW or whatever is appropriate. Don't know if you have a wonderful community mental health group like we do here....but it might be worth acking at your partial about......tell them you are desperately in need because this life coach you are seeing is what triggered you to the point of needing the partial.....make sure they know the seriousness of the triggering that she has been for you & they will be more serious about helping you also.

you're right. I played it down today. but we meet again tomorrow to do my treatment plan. I will be more clear. I got the same T and same Pdoc from when I was in in 2011. So they know me - T actually remembers! She said my discharge date would be the first week of Dec and I nearly went in to Empty Space. But I forced myself out of it - remembering they have to give an early date and then work with it as is needed. I was like You can't CAN'T kick me out that week when that's like the second hardest week (anniversary) of my life! She changed the date.

That's really cool that they gave you a T and pdoc that you've worked with in the past, and that the T actually remembers you! Wow! And nice that they're able to listen and work with you on the date. This sounds like a really good program! (Ha - not like the forced internment, or whatever it was, that your crazy-LC was saying! And, yup, I'm labeling her "Crazy-LC" not "T" since we know now that she's lost her T-license. Pfft! )

*hugs* It sounds like you're in good hands!

Therapists who cannot keep clear boundaries with patients are very damaging. You should never have contact again with that "life coach". I assume insurance doesn't cover that so you are paying for it all. No wonder she doesn't want you to quit. If you feel really brave, tell your T at outpatient about her. You will get awesome support from a professional, ethical therapist. That T could help you disengage from a relationship that isn't appropriate and is clearly not helping you. That makes it a lot easier when another professional stands up for you.