[PaulaS]

I´ve just experienced a sad and unexpected end to therapy, an end that was decided by my T and without talking things through properly. I left some opionions upon the last session and after that she just decided to terminate a therapy that had been going on for more than three months.

I hadn´t experienced any larger issues within the therapy itself and don´t really get was has really happened and that it actually happened. It´s not a matter of talking things through as I´ve already tried that and we didn´t disuss at all, she just mentioned that the therapy would end together with a very brief explanation.

I could now need a bit of support from others who has experienced a similar thing. I can´t afford any more therapy and I don´t have insurance to cover it either so I´m basically "put on the street". It´s very hard emotionally and I don´t know how to straighten things out, how to solve things or how to get on with my life as I still need therapy. But I can´t get proper care as I´m considered to be "too healthy" for publically financed alternatives.

[ThisWayOut]

wow, I'm sorry your t handled things so poorly... Did she leave you with any referals at least?
I have always experienced being able to talk about my therapy concerns with a t so I have not been terminated for that reason, but I have had expereinces where therapy ended before I was ready. In the end, I have pretty much always been able to find another t, even if it took a while. Are there any other therapists that charge similar fees whom you may be able to afford? I don't know about Spain, but I know in the US it's possible to find clinics or therapists that offer a sliding scale based on your income... Is there anything like that where you are?

[Perna]

I don't know that one can really "deal" with it, it's real, there, and has to be experienced? There's nothing wrong with that! Sadness and loss, etc. are part of life?

[Depletion]

I'm so sorry my therapy ended abruptly because of my Erotic Transference. It was very hard. I cried a lot and wrote about it here. There's nothing to do but just let the pain come and grieve the loss. You are entitled to all of your feelings. I read a while ago that losing a therapist is second to losing a parent for a lot of people. It's ok to be sad. I hope that you can find something that works out better down the line.

[CrimsonBlues]

Hi PaulaS-

I am so sorry this happened to you. I had something similar happen to me, a therapist I had been meeting with for about ten months suddenly decided to end the therapy- without any warning at all, when things seemed to be going well. We had just started to work through issues related to PTSD, which apparently was one of her specialties, and with the trust issues I had already her actions devastated me. I have not been able to return to therapy since this happened. I wish I had some great advice to offer you about how to work through it but all I can tell you is that I am still trying to figure out how to do this myself. I can also tell you that you're not alone and I feel for what you are experiencing.

I did try a few times to get answers from her but she wouldn't respond. I don't know if you have any interest in doing so but have you contacted the therapist who did this to let them know about the angst and confusion their action has caused and asked for an explanation? Maybe write a letter? I think it's an excellent idea to do what you're doing here, talking about your thoughts and feelings in this forum-a good place to start to heal from this situation.

[PaulaS]

No, it doesn´t seem like she will leave any referals or help me in some way to get in contact with another therapist. There´s no sliding fees when you're considered to be too healthy for specialist psychiatric care, that is if you have to see a therapist in a private practise, as I have to do, you have to pay the full fee.

I unfortunately think I´m one of those clients that my T just didn´t feel like continue seeing just because she realised I'm a person who questions and want more attention from her than she is willing to give. But that´s just a guess.

Originally Posted by ThisWayOut

wow, I'm sorry your t handled things so poorly... Did she leave you with any referals at least?
I have always experienced being able to talk about my therapy concerns with a t so I have not been terminated for that reason, but I have had expereinces where therapy ended before I was ready. In the end, I have pretty much always been able to find another t, even if it took a while. Are there any other therapists that charge similar fees whom you may be able to afford? I don't know about Spain, but I know in the US it's possible to find clinics or therapists that offer a sliding scale based on your income... Is there anything like that where you are?

[PaulaS]

That´s just awkward the situation you described. If a T keeps you in therapy for as long as ten months and the just leaves you, I would say that person isn´t at all suitable as a T. Did you get any kind of explanation at all? It´s just weird that a T, a person who´s supposed to be proffessional can´t even answer a simple letter.

I already got a brief explanation but to me it just appears as a subterfuge, that she realised in some way she hadn´t been honest about her actions and that made me get a somewhat false image of her and of the therapeutic relationship and her possibility to actually help me solving my problems.

Originally Posted by CrimsonBlues

Hi PaulaS-

I am so sorry this happened to you. I had something similar happen to me, a therapist I had been meeting with for about ten months suddenly decided to end the therapy- without any warning at all, when things seemed to be going well. We had just started to work through issues related to PTSD, which apparently was one of her specialties, and with the trust issues I had already her actions devastated me. I have not been able to return to therapy since this happened. I wish I had some great advice to offer you about how to work through it but all I can tell you is that I am still trying to figure out how to do this myself. I can also tell you that you're not alone and I feel for what you are experiencing.

I did try a few times to get answers from her but she wouldn't respond. I don't know if you have any interest in doing so but have you contacted the therapist who did this to let them know about the angst and confusion their action has caused and asked for an explanation? Maybe write a letter? I think it's an excellent idea to do what you're doing here, talking about your thoughts and feelings in this forum-a good place to start to heal from this situation.

[Depletion]

Originally Posted by PaulaS

No, it doesn´t seem like she will leave any referals or help me in some way to get in contact with another therapist. There´s no sliding fees when you're considered to be too healthy for specialist psychiatric care, that is if you have to see a therapist in a private practise, as I have to do, you have to pay the full fee.

I unfortunately think I´m one of those clients that my T just didn´t feel like continue seeing just because she realised I'm a person who questions and want more attention from her than she is willing to give. But that´s just a guess.

I'm pretty sure that it is client abandonment not to give any referrals. Codes of Ethics on Termination in Psychotherapy and Counseling, by Ofer Zur, Ph.D.

[lifetimemeds]

I experienced the loss of my therapist and psychiatrist unexpectedly at the same time. I had been seeing them both for 10 years. I received a form letter in the mail from both saying they would no longer take Medicare or Blue Cross insurance. Hope you find other providers. It was a total shock. I was very angry and upset. I felt rejected just because they didn't get enough money for their services. Tried to get referrals but no go. I even thought about going into the building restroom and hanging myself. I never got to say goodbye and no closure. I got over it and had one visit to several docs before finding a good match. I have been with my new ones for 3 years now and rarely think about the ones that dumped me.