[Jordy]

I've been seeing my T/Pdoc for three years now, and have known since Day 1 that she has ADD and most of the time it's not an issue. Especially since I usually see her in the mornings when it's easier for her to concentrate. But yesterday was different: I was supposed to have skills group at 6pm (though our group has dwindled to 3 over the last few months), but she called and asked if I could come in at 5.
When I got there she told me the other girls couldn't make it, but she still wanted to see me as it was my turn to do some role-playing and I need to be ready for a meeting with my boss next week.

Anyway in a whole it was a very good and productive session, mainly because she realized I was petrified and she made me feel safe and cared for. But at the same time she was all over the place, like she got up a couple times to leave the room because she thought she had forgotten something, or she kept using a different name every time she talked about my boss but never the right one. I could just see she was really struggling with her ADD and I had no idea how to handle it. So I didn't comment on it, didn't rectify the name and tried to follow her lead.

What would you have done? I know she was really tired yesterday, and not feeling well, so this is probably why she was handling her ADD much worse than usual, but still I'ld like to know what's the best approach if this should happen again.

[HazelGirl]

Both my T and I have ADD. The medication doesn't work nearly as well if you're tired, so that definitely came into play. I would say just be patient and know it's a temporary thing. It's not something she has any control over, so saying anything wouldn't have changed how things went.

Because it's bothering you, it would be totally fair to talk about why it bothered you, though, as long as you know it's not something that will change.

[Jordy]

I know it won't change, and usually it's not an issue. But yesterday it made me a bit uncomfortable because I felt bad for her. I know she doesn't do this on purpose and it has nothing to do with me. If anything she was sorry for not being able to handle it better and I didn't know how to reassure her it was okay with me.

[Depletion]

I don't have a ton of advice for you, but my H has ADD, and talking to him about serious stuff like emotions can some times be a trial, because he fatigues easily. This sounds like a really big challenge. The only thing I can really say is try not to take it personally. And honestly it is up to your T to schedule at times that work for her, and its up to her to manage things in away that are helpful to her. Unless think kind of thing turns into a reoccurring pattern I wouldn't worry about it.

[smmath]

Could it have just been an off day or her personality?

[Tangerine87]

Originally Posted by HazelGirl

Both my T and I have ADD. The medication doesn't work nearly as well if you're tired, so that definitely came into play. I would say just be patient and know it's a temporary thing. It's not something she has any control over, so saying anything wouldn't have changed how things went.

Because it's bothering you, it would be totally fair to talk about why it bothered you, though, as long as you know it's not something that will change.

What do u take for your add. I have it too. I'm seeing a pdoc that seems to believe that adults don't have it.