I wonder if anyone else is feeling like this?
I do suffewr with bad bouts of anxiety, among other things, but I am getting really anxious about the Christmas break & its only November. I know I won't see my t for at least 2 weeks. I am feeling pangs of loss & abandonment already. OMG, how will I manage without him? What do all you guys do & how do you manage? What do you do? I hope I am not the only one who feels like this!!!

I too get very anxious about breaks in therapy; just recently my T went away for a week and wasn't immediately avaliable after he got back so it ended up being 17 days between appointments which was tough, especially when he got back and acted all normal and I really had to start from scratch trusting him and feeling connected. Two weeks to him is a lifetime to me!
It's awful when the break is looming and you're just waiting for the inevitable void. It would be great if you could work on coping strategies with T between now and Christmas, that way you might feel more prepared.

[JustShakey]

I haven't seen mine in almost a month. I'm going a little nuts. I'm still going though. I just keep imagining the huge tantrum I want to throw in his office next week... I'll probably be too embarrassed to go through with it though...
Gah. Bloody useless man... wanders off, muttering to self and scaring small children

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[guilloche]

Oh no... how much time is normal for a T to take off for the holidays? I'm just barely starting to feel safe and trusting... just a tiny bit ... towards my T. Now, I'm worrying that this might throw a wrench in things!

Do you guys do anything to stay connected feeling during the break? I think some sort of homework/project would help me, especially as I'll be off work for a couple weeks (I don't do well without any structure).

I was really upset last winter during break, when I had to go two weeks without therapy. I felt like I was in a really vulnerable place and it brought up deep abandonment fears. I'm not sure how I made it through in one piece, but it was a really long two weeks.

This past summer I had similar issues when I had to go nearly a month without therapy between my and T's vacation schedules.

I visualize the pain I feel during breaks as making me stronger. Sort of grieving the loss of connection? After a few breaks, it gets easier. You realize that yes, you survived, and can do it again.

Im not seeing mine for a month over xmas

[Soccer mom]

I try to keep myself busy: TV shows, home projects, friends, reading, etc.

[precaryous]

This will be my first Thanksgiving and Christmas break without T. I have already caught myself looking at my calendar and feeling sad. We will be skipping two weeks for each holiday. I don't know what provisions or boundaries she has for these holidays, yet. I'll have to talk to her about it.

No, you're not the only one who is feeling anxiety about this!

Thank you so much for replying to me. In a way I feel a bit better, as it seems like I am not the only one who is already stressing!! Xmas is not the best time for me anyway, as I was taken into care just prior to Xmas all those years ago. The trouble is though, is that I can't help being reminded about that time, so am triggered each & every year. My t is the first person that I have ever really felt comfortable with. (As comfortable as therapy can make you - Lol!) I see my t twice a week & count the days & hours, so a two week break just feels like total abandonment. I saw my t this afternoon & told him, but all he said was that it would not be that long!!!! 2 weeks is forever, so why doesn't he understand that? I guess that I am that small child at the moment, who is inpatient & needy. Therapy SUCKS!