[Soccer mom]

I am realizing more and more that I am so guarded in my sessions. I have a hard time talking about my feelings to my T. even just the fact that I feel close to her. I can tell anyone my opinions all day long and am considered a direct person but don't ask me to explain how I feel....

I wish there was something she could do to help me open up but I'm not sure what it is. As ridiculous as this sounds, several months ago I wanted her to say "you can tell me anything" which, of course, should be implied.
I'm sure it's all about fear and trust and that my parents never asked about my feelings. What does your T. do to help you open up? Do they say certain things? Act a certain way?

[JustShakey]

Honestly SM, it's better if she not try to do anything. Previous T tried a bunch of things with me and it had the exact opposite effect of what she wanted. She scared me silly and I even thought I was losing my mind at one point. It fed the transference like nothing on earth. Really bad idea. Much better that your T be patient with you and perhaps model openness.

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[Utterly]

Originally Posted by JustShakey

Much better that your T be patient with you and perhaps model openness.

I was in this same situation, and my T said less, not more... and insisted I use the phrase "I feel that" rather than "I think that" She also modeled discussing feelings pretty well.

[HazelGirl]

Yep, like others have said, she modeled it, and didn't push me, other than asking "what are you feeling right now?" occasionally, and accepting it if I said "I don't know" or "I don't want to say".