[shoez]

At least in my situation.
My 2 therapists are so focused on my diagnosis( I dont wish to disclose what it is, but I'm not ****ing delusional) , they have stopped listening to me, which was all I wanted. They are so solution oriented I am feeling unheard, the more I say I feel unheard the more they tell me I'm misunderstanding, My view is off because of (x, y, z). I tell them why I feel unheard, they say, "thats just because..(insert reason concerning my diagnosis here).

I guess its sign they are tired of me, I don't want to frustrate them, I hear the frustration in their voice. They want me to get better and show I want to quick.

It is making me have suicidal ideations. I just want to quit therapy now.

[CrimsonBlues]

Hello shoez-

I know how painful and frustrating it is to feel unheard in therapy. It sounds like you have tried to talk about this with the therapists you are meeting with to no avail. Have you told them how serious the situation is, that you are feeling hopeless and having suicidal thoughts because of this? If they are ignoring your concerns repeatedly it might be time to consider finding new therapists. Would this be a possible option? I know how stressful starting over with a new therapist can be but it might be worth your while. You deserve to be heard.

Solution-oriented sounds like short term, goal oriented therapy (like CBT). If so, you might consider looking for one that does mid to long-term psychodynamic therapy where you can get deeper into the origins of your problems. The approach of solution-oriented type of therapy is to focus on today, skill building and coping, that sort of thing. It can feel alienating if you have deeper issues you want to sort through.

[stopdog]

It certainly can be a joke.

I agree with lickety I am doing long-term psychodynamic (with a few other things thrown in the mix for good measure) therapy and the only time we ever talked diagnosis was in the beginning, for insurance purposes. I don't know if this is normal, but then I've been doing phone sessions for 2 years now paying out of pocket (my insurance won't help since she moved out of state). She is more about finding what's right with people, than what's wrong with them, I think that's one part of her online profile that really drew me to her in the first place. That and the fact that she specializes in dream work. She isn't about quick fixes or just symptom management. It's very deep work, and has been very rewarding. Just my two cents!

[shoez]

I see where you guys are coming from, perhaps I am just in the wrong therapy. I don't know where to find therapists that work with what I have. One of my therapists claims she works with all these things I go through, but when I see her, I just dont see how she can work with such deep and complex issues but be so surface...and unobservant. I just don't know who to believe when their description says this or that, and it doesn't match their actual sessions.

[hellboy]

Sounds like some borderline things going on there.

Hellboy