[Arha]

I thought it would be nice to hear about positive things Ts have said about others. What has your T said that was really great to hear?

My T said I was awesome.
I struggle to believe it, but it was great to hear.

[Aloneandafraid]

Mine said she believes me. She also said she will be here next week and the week after and the week after that although she understands that an hour a week probably isn't enough right now. She isn't going to get rid of me.

[stopdog]

The one I see said she would not touch me.
I was more reassured by that until she did something else she had said she would not do. But still, assuming she meant it, it is a good thing.

[A Red Panda]

My T has said "I'm sorry" and meant it.

That means more to me than anything else he could say really.

[rothfan6]

We were talking about the fact that I was starting to trust him and I felt like running because trust is scary and usually only leads me to get hurt, he said
"But think of it this way working with me is the safe and controlled way to learn to tolerate this feeling. You have complete control you can walk away if you need to but you don't have to in order to stay safe"

[HazelGirl]

Hmm... She has said:

- She doesn't ever want to hurt me
- I am not too much or overwhelming to her
- she wants to be there for me when I am struggling
- she considers it a privilege to hear my story and trauma
- she genuinely cares about me
- she won't go anywhere
- she is sorry (if she makes a mistake)
- she understands
- she feels sad for me (even when, especially when, I can't feel sad for myself)
- she believes in me

There's more, but that's what comes to mind.

[brillskep]

I believe your T Hope you will someday, too.

My T has been most generous in this regard and throughout the years, there have been many things. Off the top of my head, the most touching for me were when he says that he cares about me and I'm dear to him, that he trusts me, that our therapeutic relationship is important to him too, and when he's said I am warm, soulful, empathetic, a good professional (therapist), when he admired my art. There are a lot of things and I'm probably leaving out important stuff, but these things have touched me a lot, in a good way.

Thanks for this thread - I'm feeling very lucky right now

[Ambra]

That she will never say I'm disgusting and no one else should, that she's invested in my healing but will stay with me until I'm ready. That I draw beautifully and am not stupid at all.

The greatest thing would be "i believe you". I've never dared asking though.

At different times she's called me amazing, lovable, courageous, said has a lot of admiration for me, told me she will never leave. She also puts hearts and emojis on the end of her texts and never wavered in her patience with me.

[Leah123]

"As long as I am alive and able to function, I will be your therapist; I will not abandon you...
One of my mentors believed that when we work with someone long term, we become their "Therapist for Life." I am committed to being yours"

"I enjoy working with you immensely and am very proud of the progress you have made and your faithfulness to the process."

"Yes, I do have a motherly love for you, an acceptance of you just as you are; hopefully I am being your 'Good Enough Mother.'"

"You are not and will not be too much for me; I am always here for you even when you have a sinking feeling that I may not be. I will not leave you."

I also recall her saying what an honor it was to work with me and how the therapy relationship is sacred and that she's thought I was brave and strong and making amazing progress.

P.S. I had to add/echo what a couple others said above: she has said sorry to me when it was hard for her to do, and I felt a great respect and commitment from her for doing that. She's also said sorry for coming up short and such, and it just shows her devotion. Sometimes I can hardly believe we have this relationship, sometimes I call her my Fairy Godmother.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Loads of fab things here A heartwarming thread indeed.

Mine has said a lot of wonderful, precious things that I tuck carefully away in my heart.

Today (I was having a wibble thinking she would defo get repulsed and terminate me soon, as we go into some deep stuff) she reassured me she wasn't going anywhere, and to illustrate it she said how she was right beside me holding my hand in it, and that I just have to keep my hand in hers and not disappear, she'll be here all through this. And for me that was really nice, because a couple of times before when I can't articulate much I've just sent a text saying "please don't let go of my hand", so it kind of reminded me of all the times she's not let go before - she's still here

[Nightlight]

The last time I saw her she told me that she still really likes me and looks forwards to seeing me each week. Now that I've reduced the frequency of my sessions due to the cost, she said she misses me on the weeks that she doesn't see me. She also said that unlike my mother, she won't leave until I'm ready. And she said "I'm proud of you, but..." (I also feel proud of her.) She's said lots of kind things over the years.

[Freewilled]

He has said the following to me:

* I care about you
* I'm here with you
* when I told him I felt like I was just damaged he said, "not damaged - injured" and that I could change with hard work
* you're not a burden to me
* What if I told you that you don't have to be responsible for my feelings?
* when I told him I had a hard time seeing the gray areas he said "I know" in such a way, it was like he really, really understood and was right there with me.
* You can always call me
* I believe this is *very* important work for the both of us
* I will work with you for however long you still want to
* I trust you

[Rzay4]

My new T has said I'm very smart and will fight for me as people have treated me badly.

[Arha]

Thank you to everyone for your comments.
I am realising how important it is to repeat positive statements, especially given the incessant negative statements I have in my head.

I am glad that most of you have had your T say helpful and positive things about you.
Time to start believing them.

[archipelago]

My shrink has said I'm precious and the kind of work we do is the closest he'll ever come to the sacred.

He has also said things that are like sayings that are helpful, like, "Perfection is not of this world."

[Selost]

"It's incredible that you manage to accomplish/juggle so much in spite of how poorly you feel. That, to me, is amazing." Then I said that I didn't agree, and T said, "You don't have to. But I do."

[tealBumblebee]

• You're not a lying person. I don't think you have lied to me. In fact, I think you're very honest. Thank you for that. And if you ever do lie to me, I think it would be out of self preservation.

• {Teal}...you're so much more awesome than you know.

• You're a very cool person. I can see us totally being friends.

• You are very smart. Very smart. So intelligent. I think you're level of intelligence is how you've managed to survive as well as you have.

• I'm right here with you. Holding your hand, walking beside you. We're on this journey together.

[HazelGirl]

Can I add some from my appointment on Monday?

"What you went through was unbearable...but you would be surprised what we can bear together"
"It's very sad what you went through. It's okay to be sad." (When I was trying not to cry)
"It makes sense why you would have been suicidal." (Basically, I don't blame you for responding to those situations in that way. And you need to be able to forgive yourself for considering that when you were very depressed.)

[ScarletPimpernel]

- I'm sorry
- I didn't mean to hurt you
- I will not abandon you
- I am not rejecting you
- I want you to continue to come to therapy
- I worry about you
- I like you
- I care about you
- I love talking with you
- I love debating with you
- I look forward to seeing you every week
- I will make sure all your basic needs are met even if I
have to share my lunches with you.
- I love how you can predict what I'm going to say to you
- I trust you
- I believe you
- I love being playful with you
- I'm proud of you
- I want to understand
- I now understand
- You are not wrong
- I feel lucky that I get to see and know the real you
etc...

[AllyIsHopeful]

"You are so beautiful" several times with so much sincerity.

"trust yourself. I trust you."

"The door is always open. I can't make you stay, but I will always be here when you need me."

Ahhh and so many others. <3

To numerous to mention, but the most important, I love you. That's what I hang onto now that therapy is done.