[ThingWithFeathers]

Does your t respond openly to you or does your t tend to sit back and just let you talk? Does your t voluntarily share his/her thoughts and insights or do you need to ask for feedback?

[junkDNA]

my T shares feedback and we explore things together. he asks questions and makes observations. i like his style. i wouldnt feel comfortable with a T that just sat there and didnt say anything

[ThisWayOut]

My t offers feedback. She sits back and listens too sometimes, but it would drive me nuts if she didn't interact with me.

[JaneTennison1]

I talk and she listens. Sometimes she asks questions and sometimes I ask her thoughts. She also offers feedback at times. I prefer interaction as it shows me she pays attention.

My therapy is definitely a collaborative effort between T and I, and I wouldn't want it any other way. While I do a lot of work on my own between sessions, we always talk about it and only ONCE has she said "I have nothing to add to that." I was pretty shocked to hear that because she always has something to add haha. Sometimes through talking over things with her I come up with great questions for myself that lead to more insights. And we "think out loud" together a lot. I am at a place right now, where I SO love this work!!!

My t gives lots of feedback and talks a lot, some of which I found a bit hard at the start but I find it wonderful now. What about yours?

[justdesserts]

I get lots of feedback, which I'm grateful for because sometimes my perceptions/thinking is distorted and he can help me see my thinking errors.

[Ad Intra]

She would just allow me to talk. Sometimes she would ask questions or offer feedback but I was pretty good at being introspective while I was talking.

[dark_sweetie]

Yep it's very back and forth. We both talk and listen a lot.

T lets me talk and never interrupts me, but he also responds, asks questions, and offers feedback. But he is not afraid of long silences, and occasionally I wish he would say more. Usually I am very satisfied with the level of interaction, though.

[guilloche]

It's back and forth here too, thank goodness. I don't do well with long silences either, especially if I'm anxious or getting spacey. T is good at finding *some* way to say something and keep the communication going...

The only downside is that sometimes I don't get all my thoughts out. Maybe I ramble a bit, or maybe T just knows exactly what he wants to say and can't wait. But overall, it's a good mix, and I'm grateful that I don't get stuck feeling all alone in silence!

[GeminiNZ]

My T is a feedbacker and i find it helpful most of the time. Sometimes, though, his timing is off and he jumps into my processing space, or he asks too many questions too close together. Both of those things throw me off and the conversation can fall apart.

But i know he does it from a place of caring - silence can be a big trigger for me as it was used as a form of abuse in my childhood - and he's always apologetic if i manage to let him know what's going on.

My t always offers feedback, most of the time she will ask if it's ok to share what she thinks and occasionally she will say, Mona, I am going to take a risk here and ask if this is connected to such and such or I notice that you said that the last time to. It is mostly helpful

[stopdog]

It took awhile for me to get the woman to finally quit talking. She is not useful when she talks.

She loves to give her opinion all the time i find it very helpful.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

My t gives lots of feedback and talks a lot, some of which I found a bit hard at the start but I find it wonderful now. What about yours?

Yeah, my t and I talk together. We work things out together and she shares her understandings with me.

[ScarletPimpernel]

We take turns talking. We also allow each other to interrupt one another if needed. Sometimes I tell her to not talk until I tell her everything I have to say. Sometimes she tells me she's going to "get on her soapbox" which means I allow her to say what she needs to say. She tells me her opinions and feelings (so long as she feels it's a benefit to me...which sometimes I have to prove to her). She is always encouraging me, reminding me of how I have grown, and helps me figure out what to do next. I asked her last week what she would view as the next step for me, and she answered.

But my T and I made a deal from the first session that our relationship would be more of a partnership and that we would both be open and honest with each other. Funny thing is that I have even told her when I feel like lying to her...I haven't lied though.

[smmath]

My therapist gives me a lot of feedback. He also gives me his theories as to why I am feeling like I do. I am also thankful that he is not a blank slate and shows his emotions. Last week he even told me the two ways in which he was afraid of me. I am thankful that he shares his thoughts with me and takes chances with what he shares.

[brillskep]

Yes, my therapist gives me a lot of feedback. Most of the time it's very helpful, though sometimes I wish he' spend more time really listening.

[MindfulMoment]

My T started off using lots of silence and I hated it, really hated it, although she managed to learn a lot about me as I just spoke to fill the silence. Now she talks a lot more, asks a lot more insightful questions and gives her observations on things and she laughs a lot more with me. It hasn't taken me long to decide that I trust her and enjoy working with her.

[secretgalaxy]

My T and I do go back and forth when talking, but she tries to get me to talk more than her. We have silences between conversations at times, or when we are trying to figure out how to word something.