[Soccer mom]

Have any of you told your T's how much their eye interaction/gaze/connection means to you? I know some of you struggle maintaining eye contact. For those of you who don't, have you ever talked about it? As I have read on other posts, my T's eye contact pierces my soul, makes me feel held without touched, gives me the best/scary feeling I've experienced.

I think the feelings I get with it tell a lot about how much of my transference is maternal - it's the attunement I never got and I'm just soaking it in. Part of me wants to tell her since I'm so guarded with my feelings - it would be information she could use. The other part of me is afraid she'll stop not wanting to feed it or something (she would probably tell me this is me projecting my mom stuff onto her). Although, I know most psychotherapists believe it's the key to healing - catharsis.

I'd like to hear what she says about it.

[geis]

I struggle with eye contact. In most contexts, I can force it enough to appear at least vaguely normal, but in therapy, I just can't. I had a couple therapists when I was a kid/teenager force me to do it, which just led to dissociation and a complete lack of trust. As an adult, the only time I really discussed it in therapy was several years ago. The therapist said her theory was that I didn't want to see someone else seeing me, which resonated with my experience of it.

[MrPink182]

My eye contact with anyone is HORRIBLE. The funny thing is, when I look someone in the eyes, I have more confidence and am in general better. I have a bad habit of looking away do to GAD and SAD.