[JaneC]

I feel really silly asking, or even admitting that I am wondering this........

I wonder if my T is thinking about me, it's just become Christmas Day, and this is a time of struggle for me......and it is going to be a looooong time until I see him next........and I have no other real emotional support.........

I wonder if he gives me, or any client, a second thought? Do you wonder? Do you know?

Sigh, why do I even think about this? I try so hard to not be needy, but I just am!

[precaryous]

I think many of them think about us.

Im glad we all have PC for part of our support system.

Funny you should ask. T just sent an email with photo of Xmas lights, which she knows I adore.
I replied 'lights!' T replied 'I thought you'd like them!'

So the answer to your question for me is, yes.

[sweepy62]

I for sure know my former t will .

I'm a teacher and I don't automatically shut off thinking about my students (yes, individually) just because I'm on vacation. I'd say it's pretty normal for therapists to think about their clients even when they aren't in their presence.

I remember my therapist telling me about standing in the middle of a river fly-fishing when he had a sudden revelation about me. Yes, they think about us.

I don't know. I just, I don't know. Things are weird right now.

[A Red Panda]

No clue. I plan to send him a quick email on the 26th just to let him know that I did NOT do anything idiotic, just in case. Here's hoping that I don't have a total meltdown tonight or tomorrow so that I can actually say that.

[granite1]

no i don't think she will be thinking about me at all. i am very aware of the fact that i am a job to her and she has a family and life aside from that and i am not a part of that . i don't think that is a bad thing at all .

[Soccer mom]

Because this is my first Christmas without my mom, I do think she'll think of me at least once wondering how it's going.

I once told her it was easy for her because she could leave her office and not think about any of her clients but the clients are in pain and thinking about therapy. She said that's not it at all - that she does think about them. I think just as things remind us of our T., things remind them of us.

[stopdog]

The one I see does not celebrate xmas - so it is pretty much just the same as any other time for her except for all the annoying hoopla all around in general. I doubt she thinks of me when not in an appointment with her. I have no idea why she would independently call me up in her head. I usually don't think she even remembers my name other than that it is on the list of appointments for the day once a week. This is, for me, not a bad thing. There is no reason for her to think about me one way or the other. I do not usually think about my students or clients while on I am on vacation or in general when not with them - I don't know why a therapist would be any different.

[SnakeCharmer]

I know I'm thinking of various Psych Central members, people I've never met, hoping they'll be okay over Christmas, with family or alone, stressed or lonely or having too much fun, and thinking about each one individually depending on their particular circumstances.

Thinking about many people, near and far, as I go to the grocery store, vacuum the floor, read recipes, do the dishes. That doesn't make my life sound too exciting, When I'm doing something exciting I try to keep my mind in the moment, not wandering, so no one else has my attention. That's the way it is. There are up moments and down moments and on and off moments. In all of that complexity, the mind can't help but go to those who have touched my heart or even annoyed me no end.

I'm thinking about them and hoping all goes well for them. Not every single minute of my existence, but when I should be concentrating on the chef's knife while chopping vegetables, I might be thinking about ... you.

I don't see how a T, who knows their patients, who feels caring and annoyance and frustration and worry and affection and humor could turn it off all the time when the office lights are turned of and the door is locked. Something will happen that reminds them of a particular patient, even a look at the clock, and T will be thinking, "Jane's probably doing X right now. I hope she's okay."

[roimata]

Not me, no.

[Petra5ed]

Yeah I think they do. I work with kids a bit and even though I see them less frequently than I go to therapy, I think about them a fair bit (nothing obsessive, but they enter and exit my mind a lot.) I think if you have a therapist you have seen for any length of time they must grow a bit attached like we do. My therapist has told me he's thought of me before.

[ThisWayOut]

I'm a bit conflicted on whether or not I'd want my t thinking of me at any time outside of session. On the one hand, I'm flattered that anyone would think of me when I'm not around and in their face to annoy the crap out of them. On the other hand, I find myself so... distasteful? That I would prefer they enjoy their time away from me without a thought...
I really miss ex t though, so I kinda hope she thinks of me. I wish we could talk or hang or something, but that's the kid in me. The adult knows that would never work.

[VioletBubble]

Originally Posted by ThisWayOut

I'm a bit conflicted on whether or not I'd want my t thinking of me at any time outside of session. On the one hand, I'm flattered that anyone would think of me when I'm not around and in their face to annoy the crap out of them. On the other hand, I find myself so... distasteful? That I would prefer they enjoy their time away from me without a thought...

I feel the same...

I hope she is not thinking of me--I would feel guilty if she was. I don't want to contaminate her time away from me. She has the nice, happy family to spend the holidays with. I don't want her thinking of me. I seriously doubt she is anyway, which is understandable--this is her break, her time to not work and think.

[Ad Intra]

Hummm..... she'll probably think about her clients, but I'm not sure if I'll be one of them. I'll def think of her though

Originally Posted by JaneC

I feel really silly asking, or even admitting that I am wondering this........

I wonder if my T is thinking about me, it's just become Christmas Day, and this is a time of struggle for me......and it is going to be a looooong time until I see him next........and I have no other real emotional support.........

I wonder if he gives me, or any client, a second thought? Do you wonder? Do you know?

Sigh, why do I even think about this? I try so hard to not be needy, but I just am!

My t said she will be thinking of me and all of clients this Christmas.
I think you know the answers to your own questions Jane, its nice to think that somebody will be thinking of us over Christmas and its not being needy it just is need and a want, its not a bad thing, so please dont be so harsh on yourself.

[Willowleaf]

I gave mine a bath bomb for Christmas as it was a small gift I thought she would like as she's always going on about baths being relaxing. Anyway she informed me she would think of me when she was in the bath! All I could say was Ew please don't !

[junkDNA]

yes most likely

[JaneTennison1]

Maybe a passing thought and no more. She is away and I wouldn't expect her to think of me.

I'm sure my T thinks of some clients today but I doubt he'd think of me. I don't know and have no way of knowing. Two weeks and a day left of the holiday, and like you I have no other support system.

I'm sorry things are so hard for you, Jane. I hope you can get some relief and joy during this time.

[LindaLu]

My T does actively think of her peeps. Probably will say a brief prayer for us and the rest of the world.

Im thinking about her, people on PsychCentral, and distant relatives sending vague group texts that suggest... discomfort, annoyance, illness, or what? Last week and they were so happy for Christmas.

No, I don't think she'd be thinking about me.
I know that when I'm sitting in front of her, her attention is totally focused on me, but outside the therapy room, no. But I do know that I'm a pretty unremarkable client--I'm not in crisis. I'm not in a deep, scary depression. If I was in that kind of condition, I think my therapist might think of me during a vacation or time off. It would be natural for any therapist to have a passing thought or concern about one of their clients who was going through a particularly tough time.

[Ford Puma]

I think a person would be surprised to find the number of other folks that think about us from time to time. Just because its the holiday season does not mean mental health care professionals switch off and do not think about us at some stage.
I think about my therapist every so often and hope she is having a nice time.
I feel a bit bad about not wishing her a happy Christmas though. She did when I last saw her but I can be an odd ball sometime and all I did was mutter something about loosing addresses for family members and been late with posting the cards.
I am... somewhat, socially awkward as some might say.

[PaulaS]

I think it´s a most valid thought to wonder if your T will think about you during holidays.

I have thought about it myself several times during this holiday already but in my case I was terminated a couple of months ago but I still hope my former T have had me in her thoughts for some time. In my case I hope she has wondered how things went after she terminated me as she don´t know at all.

I haven´t found a new T so there has been no questions for records or something like that and she therefore don´t know where I went after ending therapy. But I´m not sure, perhaps she just thinks she´s happy she don´t have to deal with me anymore, sadly I think it´s more likely she thinks of me that way than having nice thoughts.

Originally Posted by JaneC

I feel really silly asking, or even admitting that I am wondering this........

I wonder if my T is thinking about me, it's just become Christmas Day, and this is a time of struggle for me......and it is going to be a looooong time until I see him next........and I have no other real emotional support.........

I wonder if he gives me, or any client, a second thought? Do you wonder? Do you know?

Sigh, why do I even think about this? I try so hard to not be needy, but I just am!