[purplepearl]

I have never texted her for anything other than rescheduling appointments. She is my husband's and my therapist (marriage counselor). Do you think it's appropriate for me to text her if I'm needing support?

[ChangingMyMind]

Depends on T... I have had some only text me and some email and some require calls... You could ask her in text if that's ok or if it's appropriate. That is what I would do.

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[JaneTennison1]

Depends on the T. I would ask in session. My T offered me her number to text and I declined. I don't want to feel I'm intruding in anyway. She seemed fine with it.

[musinglizzy]

Some T's don't do texts at all. You'll have to find out. I text my T whenever I feel like it. She initiated texting to begin with...and we text fairly often. Sometimes just sharing pics, etc. But, I have a T who doesn't have rigid boundaries at all (except for gift giving).

[shabur]

You need to ask your T what her policy is regarding contact outside the session. I am fortunate, both my Ts allow emails, texts and calls when I need.

[stopdog]

I don't text anyone but my closest friends - texting is not my usual way of interacting with people so I would not text the therapist.
I don't think it is wrong. I would probably just ask.

[lunatic soul]

I never asked my T can I text him but I did it. He doesn't mind but he doesn't replie very often.
I don't care is it appropriate or not, I have been sometimes inappropriate with texting.
If you need help, text her. if she would say she doesn't want you to do it etc, you will know.

[Ididitmyway]

If she agrees to it, then yes.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T allows texts, but there's no point to...she rarely checks them.

You'll have to talk to your T about out of session boundaries.

[dark_sweetie]

It does depend on the T. I didn't used to but lately as things have been moving very fast,I text my T pretty often, and she does always text back. We don't have long conversations but it is good to have that resource there, and she doesn't mind or anything.

[BlessedRhiannon]

Like others have said, you'll need to ask your T that. My T encourages me to text her when I need support, because sometimes phone calls are very difficult for me. We have a "code word" that I text her that means I'm really struggling and need to talk to her. I tend to reserve texts for when quick updates, scheduling, and when I'm in crisis and really need to talk to her.

I think the fact that she is your couple's counselor makes it tricky. I believe they have to be careful not to show impartiality, which texting for extra support might be. So, if you ask her and she says it's not her policy to exchange texts, this could be why.

Regardless, I think if someone is going to text or email, s/he needs to be really clear and on point about the message and expected response (if you want to know an answer to x y or z, state it clearly). It's really easy to miscommunicate and end up feeling worse.

[NowhereUSA]

It's up to your T. My T has admitted that he would prefer to allow his clients to text him but he's part of an agency and they have rules. I'm sure he bends some rules, but not this one (that being said, I'm glad he doesn't. It seems... odd IMO).

Depends on the t i guess. My t and i text each other, but its very expensive texting from one country to another, so we usually just email or call each other. Cheaper that way.