[PaulaS]

I´ve felt quite bad since I was terminated by my T a couple of months ago and now I don´t really know how to go on in life. I´ve tried to look for another T but it´s very hard and takes much energy and now I mostly spend my days sleeping to much and feeling down.

I miss my former T and at the same time as I know I have to find a new T, I just see my situation as hopeless. There´s no help whatsoever as you have to look for therapists yourself, there´s noone there to help you.

I don´t have any relatives or family that understand my situation even if they know I went to therapy and that I was terminated. As I´m unemployed the whole situation leads to a destructive and unhealthy living. I continuously try to find a new T and also went to one of them for an evaluation session but didn´t feel she was the right one to turn to.

I´ve also realised that there´s no or a very little chance to get the help I need as those T:s I can afford to pay aren´t psychologists and I can´t really trust a social worker who´s also a psychotherapist to help me. It feels just I´m going to talk and talk to such a T but she won´t be able to really treat me.

I really feel down, depressed and without hope and I don´t know what to do. Anyone else who recognises this?

[CANDC]

Hello Paula, I read your post and remember your frustration before with your situation.

Not sure what way to go except keep looking for a T you are comfortable with. A friend spent a long time looking and wishes they had just picked somene. A long time can go by looking for the perfect T. Maybe some help would be better than no help.

And keep visiting PC. Appreciate hearing from you.

The two therapists I saw prior to my current one both terminated, but for different reasons. The first one took me about 7 years to recover enough to try again. This last one took about 5 months, and even then it was a struggle to find this one I'm seeing now.

Calling or emailing without a reference is like playing darts in the dark. I eventually talked to a colleague who told me about a great psychologist, but when she returned my call she said she wasn't taking any new clients; however, she gave me three names to try. And that led me to this one I've got that's really great. She is not a psychologist, but that really doesn't matter so much. What matters to me is their experience.

So, my advice is to ask someone, anyone, whose opinion you trust, and take that lead. Each time you run into a deadend, ask the therapist (if you like her/him) for a recommendation. It's hard work, exhausting and discouraging. Sometimes, you have to take a break until you can try again. Eventually, something will open up.

[Syra]

I so understand how hard this is. I've been there. Twice. I hear how hard it is for you, and that makes sense to me because it was/is really hard for me. I don't have any easy answers. I don't even have any difficult answers. I wish I had something helpful to say, but all I have it empathy for you, and I think some understanding - at least it makes sense to me.

Sorry you are feeling so bad. Don't forget that therapy isn't the only answer. I think therapy only helps some people anyway.

[PaulaS]

I can´t fully agree to that you should just choose a T because it´s better with no help than no help at all. In some cases a bad T can make you feel even more hopeless, as in my case.

Originally Posted by CANDC

Hello Paula, I read your post and remember your frustration before with your situation.

Not sure what way to go except keep looking for a T you are comfortable with. A friend spent a long time looking and wishes they had just picked somene. A long time can go by looking for the perfect T. Maybe some help would be better than no help.

And keep visiting PC. Appreciate hearing from you.