[justaname4me2]

I'm curious about how many of you give your T a gift for the holiday. I'm considering it, but have already given a gift (book of photos I took) in the past and even though it immediately felt awkward, I was assured that it was completely fine - and it was even brought up recently in a positive light. Still, i'm wondering if once was enough and if I might be crossing a boundary - or at the very least, a comfort zone. Any thoughts, pros and cons?

[Tangerine87]

I gave a card and then bolted for the door.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I normally wouldn't. Last year, my T seemed sad that I didn't give her a copy of the Christmas card I sent out to everyone. So I gave her one today and she was so happy. The card is simple: just a photo collage of my dogs and it said Merry Christmas from xyz. Just glad she liked it and it didn't cross a boundary.

[emptyspace]

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it was horrible. i gave T a gift that was really hard for me to do cause it shows some form of attachment.
T shoved the gift under her desk and ended session.
i felt horrible. i still feel horrible. it wasnt alot, but i put some thought into it.
would never do it again.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Last year I gave my t a watercolour painting I made. I was terrified about giving it to her, but I built up the courage and gave it to her anyway - even if it was given in an awkward way, by a very awkward person! She accepted it really sweetly. This year I gave my t a handmade card with a letter inside. She emailed me later to thank me for it. There's so much variation in what ts will accept and how they will react. If you're unsure, there's no harm in asking your t first if they accept gifts or cards.

[Soccer mom]

I gave my T. a card but she said she wouldn't read it until later when she could concentrate. I had written a lot in it.

[LindaLu]

My T is very intellectual so I "gift" her with news sources about about science, entertainment, culture. She sometimes jots things down on a post it note. Asked permission to send hyperlink to something she might enjoy reading online/free. She said okay. I hope she likes it.

i'm not going to give her anything... i hate Christmas and it would be awkward.

[Amandasmom]

I give my T a gift every year for Christmas (4 years now). She thanks me but no fuss over the gifts and I spend a lot of time thinking what to get and finding it on the Internet to create. I wish I didn't start this as it's hard to get someone a gift u don't know that we'll. I give her an ecard for her birthday.

I suggest not to start. Good luck!

[ThisWayOut]

Only ever did cards for the holidays. I tend to give a goodbye gift though at the end of therapy (unless it's sprung on me). Since I see mostly students, that can be one or twice a year...