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Feb 28, 2015, 05:59 AM
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T's husband is a child Pdoc and leader of the children and teenagers psychiatric department at a major hospital. Long story short, I just got a call that I have a job interview on the 19th with him and 2 other Pdocs to work as a secretary for the department.
I know this is far from ideal, but I'm desperate for a job and will do whatever it takes, but I also want to try and not let this interfere with my therapy. Basically I'd like to discuss some safeguards with T, but except for asking what her husband knows about me I don't know what to suggest. Any ideas? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 28, 2015, 06:46 AM
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Hopefully her husband doesn't know anything about you except that you are her patient maybe. Anything other than that would be a violation of boundaries (ethical, moral & legal) because she's not supposed to discuss you or your case with anyone (including her husband) UNLESS you signed a paper giving her permission to do so.
The most important question is, do you think that YOU could work in his department and continue to see her without letting it mess with your therapeutic process? Sincerely, Pfrog! 
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Feb 28, 2015, 08:38 AM
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I know she discussed me to some point with her husband, at least to tell him I'm reliable, can work flexible hours because I have no kids and basic stuff like that. I'm not sure whether he knows I have BPD or not and I'm pretty sure he doesn't know any details of my CSA.
I'm quite confident I could do it if I know how much he knows and we would need some boundaries. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Feb 28, 2015, 01:19 PM
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I don't think I would even ask what he knows about me if I were you. I would just keep it at a professional level and try not to worry about the rest of it. It might be uncomfortable, but if you really need the job I think it would be okay. I don't think it's unethical in any way.
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Feb 28, 2015, 01:45 PM
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I know I shouldn't worry about what he knows, but I'm not sure I could work with men who know any details about my CSA. I know it's not rational, but part of me believes that if a man knows he'll do the same to me.
So basically it's more about feeling safe than anything else. Apart from this I want to separate the job and therapy as much as possible. I know I'll lose the ability to complain about work to T, but that's ok. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#6
Feb 28, 2015, 01:55 PM
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Good luck Jordy!
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Feb 28, 2015, 01:59 PM
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Thanks. I'm quite confident about this interview as T told me her husband saw the draft of my cover letter and dictated her what he wanted me to change so I'd get an interview. And now the interview is on march 19th, my absolute lucky day!
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Feb 28, 2015, 03:12 PM
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Good luck Jordy.
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Feb 28, 2015, 03:55 PM
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goooooood luck.
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