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Old Jan 09, 2015, 10:34 PM
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Would you be offended if your t said you looked like a sad pathetic puppy?
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 10:58 PM
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 11:18 PM
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If my T called me pathetic? Yeah, that would piss me off
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 11:41 PM
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if i was looking like that at the time ... no
it would really depend on the relationship i had with the T saying it I think; if my current or previous T said it then no; from someone else then I might
i don't like the pathetic word so much though
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 11:53 PM
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my first instinct is yes. but the more I think about it, the more it would depend on the relationship and the circumstances...
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 12:47 AM
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I can't think of a circumstance in which this would be helpful in any way.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 02:02 AM
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Yes...it's a degrading and offensive comment. And how is that comment useful, anyway? It's not.
I would tell her that she looks like a cold, narcissistic ***** and get up and walk out. The way she treats you is unacceptable.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 02:24 AM
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No, I wouldnt. I'd take it as a joke- sad pathetic puppy? Seriously
Taken separately sad would not offend me, but I'd object against pathetic or puppy. First is in my eyes judgemental and second demeaning.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 03:44 AM
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Would you be offended if your t said you looked like a sad pathetic puppy?
Yes, definitely.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 05:14 AM
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Yes, very much. Especially since my T does not like the word "pathetic" at all, and tells me off when I use it about myself.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 10:57 AM
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No. If she is telling the truth, no offense taken.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:40 AM
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Yes! But I was offended by him many times before and continued to stay. Maybe not the best decision there. I believe in honesty and talking things out.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:51 AM
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Yes, I would. But it could be use of language...I think we tend to use pathetic to mean weak, and sort of ridiculous, but original the meaning is something worthy of sympathy. So, depends on the context I guess.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:53 AM
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Eh, I don't think I would. "Pathetic" is often used pejoratively, but it doesn't have to be an insult; it could also mean "evoking feelings of sympathy." I guess some people wouldn't like that, either, but for some, it would depend.

I don't imagine the T I have now would say something like that, though.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:55 AM
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I don't think anything happens in therapy that exempts a therapist from basic courtesy or nullifies an insult. We are always human beings. A therapist hangs a shingle welcoming clients to bring their troubles and worries. One shouldn't be degraded for doing what is expected in therapy.

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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:59 AM
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Actually, my t kind of murmured 'petulant' in last session, when I was being bratty. Almost thinking aloud I wasn't offended, it made me laugh. Maybe it's helpful sometimes to be aware of how we are coming across, in a safe way?
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 12:03 PM
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My T has on occasion mocked me to try to lighten the mood. It didn't hurt or offend me but I imagine if others heard him and didn't know the context of the situation, they might think he's an ***. Only recently he said, "Quit it" when I was crying and that did rub me the wrong way. This was especially bad timing on his part since I'd been reminded recently of my parents telling me as a kid, "If you don't stop crying..."

He didn't know. The other thing I'd like to point out is that they make mistakes. I'd tell your T how it made you feel. We teach them just as they teach us. if it's ok.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 12:13 PM
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I wouldn't like it if that were said to me. But pathetic is a word I use in therapy quite frequently, and T gets after me sometimes when it slips out. "I wish you weren't so in love with that word," she'd say.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 01:12 PM
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I'd suggest to the therapist that they might need some therapy.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 01:25 PM
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If a T said that to me I would be mad as hell and they would know it.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 01:36 PM
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Would you be offended if your t said you looked like a sad pathetic puppy?
I certainly would be offended.

'Sad' is a quite objective word. 'Pathetic', in my opinion, isn't.
She's judging your emotions and I don't think that's a right thing to do.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 01:47 PM
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I might not be offended by MY therapist depending on how he said it, but my therapist isn't consistently unprofessional and cold like yours is. YOUR therapist constantly says things and does things that are a beat down to you. You need a different therapist. This is just one in a LONG string of things she has said that are piled on each other in your case.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 01:51 PM
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Sad puppy look - this wouldn't offend me but if she said sad PATHETIC puppy I'd lose it.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 05:56 PM
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Crickey why on earth did she say that?
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 06:27 PM
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Yes, I would. I'd go smoothly into poker face mode though so she wouldn't see that I was insulted, like the time she told me to grow some balls, which stung, but I'd be damned if I'd let her see that. Saved only by the fact she texted an apology within half an hour.

Can you give us some context, and what was said after?
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