[relieved]

Just nevermind.

This is a three day weekend for many people. Maybe she just hasn't gotten to it yet.

[StillIRise]

If you're overreacting then so was I when the same thing happened to me. My T would tell me that no I wasn't overreacting because if you take into account my past, it is an entirely reasonable response to perceived rejection or abandonment and it is a reflex reaction, not one we have any control over. It made complete sense in the past.

Definitely let her know how this made you feel. It's the only way forward. It doesn't matter how rational you try to be about it, you still feel abandoned and hurt and rejected and no amount of rationalisation or intellectualisation will change that. You need her to hear you on this one.

I'm sorry you were put in this position, I really identify with a lot of what you've said and I'm really feeling the pain of therapy just now so I hear you!

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[Ididitmyway]

Yes, I think, you are overreacting. If your therapist has been very good with follow ups so far, it seems a bit impulsive to rush to conclusions that she is not a caring person based on the fact that this weekend she didn't contact you. So, to me the word "betrayal" is too strong for this type of s situation. It's ok to feel whatever you are feeling and there is no need to beat yourself up for feeling this way and to think of yourself as immature etc., but it's a good idea to do the reality check first.

If I was in this situation, I would definitely talk to my therapist and tell her that when she broke her routine of contacting me, it affected me and, of course, I would also like to know why she didn't contact me.

I wouldn't, however, characterize what she did as a betrayal until I talked to her.

I also would want to abandon this routine, at least at some point, and to become less dependent on her. I think, it's ok for a therapist to check up on a client in time of crisis, but I don't think it's healthy to make it a standard routine. As a therapist, I would not encourage it.

It also seems more appropriate to me for a therapist to make themselves available for additional contact between sessions when it is needed as opposed to initiating the contact.

Does it seem worthwhile to terminate an otherwise good relationship with a therapist over one thing that may or may not be something she could control? You aren't leaving any room for error here. And from what you've shared, this is not a pattern, but a one time thing. I can understand the hurt, but wouldn't terminating hurt even more?

[relieved]

Originally Posted by licketysplit

. I can understand the hurt, but wouldn't terminating hurt even more?

Yes. Sometimes I am just an idiot. With a messed up brain.

Thank you for your sensible reply!

[StillIRise]

Originally Posted by relieved

Yes. Sometimes I am just an idiot. With a messed up brain.


Thank you for your sensible reply!

You're not an idiot and you had this response for a reason! Don't beat yourself up and definitely speak to your T about it.