First time angry at T

I've been seeing her for 3 years. I've never been angry at her before now. I'm not even sure angry is the right way to put it, or that the anger is not just a projection from anger at myself onto her. But it makes me feel sad and lonely, because she is the one who I talk to about such things, but now it's about HER.

Have you ever been mad at your T, and how did you resolve it? I feel like cancelling my next appointment to avoid her but I know that isn't the way to handle it.

x5darkangel452, Hello and welcome to PC. I have been angry with my therapist, yes! I was able to work through it. It actually was about HIM. I don't think he got it but I decided to just look at myself and what I could do to help me. I hope that you will be able to see your reaction and figure out why you are so angry. Keep talking with her. Now is not the time to give up. Best wishes

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Yeah, several times- sometimes it is about him sometimes it isn't either way my T has helped me to work it out.

Being angry at T or with T?

I was upset with my t for assuming something (misunderstanding). She realized that and the issue was resolved. My t is great but on few occasions we had misunderstandings which perhaps due to language. I am in the US and obviously speak English so does my T. But we are both foreign born (I wanted immigrant T) but from totally different countries, we are both trilingual but only share English. So few times we misunderstood each other.

I think as long as you can share with your t it should be ok. Don't avoid him/her

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I'm a bit intrigued about the difference Mouse?

Dark Angel I have found expressing my anger to my T to be helpful, I don't do it much in my day to day life. She always encourages me to do it. Have you gone three years without being angry? If so you are very different to me.

I would think the difference is there are times I am angry at T for no reason except a projection of anger from elsewhere. Sometimes she'll say something quite frustrating and I'll be angry with her for what she alone has done.

I've been angry at my T. many times and told her. She actually said I do my best work when I leave mad - I guess I'm more vocal.

She has told me I can be mad at her anytime. It's just part of the relationship and therapy. Definitely talk to your T. about it. I'm sure it's not the first time someone has been mad at her!

I don't get angry with or at t, but it's because I'm still not comfortable with being angry in general. I've gotten frustrated or scared, but those are easier emotions for me. I've tried my best to talk to the t about it. It's not always right away, but I almost always try to talk about it these days. It helps both our relationship and my understanding of myself.