I'm a introvert.
Last week my son got married. I was around a lot of people obviously. But I still feel eractic inside.
T today said the session felt 'intense'. She said something about for me being around people would have that affect on me.....

But why?????

[jaynedough]

I'm the same way, except I also get voices after being around people. IDKY. Sometimes I think of it like a people allergy. I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

[unaluna]

Its like your boundaries were eroded, roughed up.

[catonyx]

I have this issue. If I am in a group scenario or have several back to back social obligations I need a significant amount of solitude after to get back to a more quiet, balanced state.

Originally Posted by hankster

Its like your boundaries were eroded, roughed up.

No, don't think it's that.

[ragsnfeathers]

I'm like that, too. Having to focus on what other people want me to, figure out proper responses, even the noise, are stressful.

[WrkNPrgress]

A great book for introverts too check out is" The Power of Quiet".

[catonyx]

Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress

A great book for introverts too check out is" The Power of Quiet".

I have Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking. Haven't read it yet. I saw a TED talk by the author and picked up her book.

Was it somehow a bit of a 'risky' day? As well as being wonderful to see your son married.

i hate being around lots of people. i think it's just an introvert thing.

[WrkNPrgress]

Originally Posted by catonyx

I have Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking. Haven't read it yet. I saw a TED talk by the author and picked up her book.

That's the one. I highly recommend it. It normalized and even celebrated a lot of stuff about my personality that I used to think was a deficiency. There are plenty of people in this world who get exhausted by social time. There's nothing wrong with that and there are real reasons based in our biology that make us this way.
I have a copy of this book too my brother, who's a teacher, and he was very appreciative.

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

Was it somehow a bit of a 'risky' day? As well as being wonderful to see your son married.

It's always risky mixing with people.
I just can't keep up the conversations, or see much point in chatting just for the sake of chatting.
I think we should all have the ability to communicate silently!
It wasn't anything to do with it being a wedding.
I feel this way at something as simple as a BBQ
Humambeinfs exhaust me.

[catonyx]

Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress

That's the one. I highly recommend it. It normalized and even celebrated a lot of stuff about my personality that I used to think was a deficiency. There are plenty of people in this world who get exhausted by social time. There's nothing wrong with that and there are real reasons based in our biology that make us this way.
I have a copy of this book too my brother, who's a teacher, and he was very appreciative.

Glad to hear it is good. I have another book to finish before I start this one.

I've always been content with how I am. I have a pretty good handle on keeping calm in social situations and then making sure I have time to decompress later. If I am feeling distressed in any way the social situations are more difficult, but I can usually still manage.

I'm intrigued how my defence becomes 'manic' for days after.

"Compared with extroverts, introverts have naturally high cortical arousal, and may process more information per second"....

This makes sense! Even when shopping I do not browse. I'm able to take in everything very quickly and pick up what I need in nano second!

[LonesomeTonight]

If you haven't read it, I'd recommend "The Introvert Advantage." It really helped me understand myself (and explain myself to my extrovert husband!).