[Jordy]

I have a session in 40 minutes and just drove by as I need to change in my car before going in. When looking at the cars in the parking lot I saw my co-workers car is there! I'm freaking out! That guy already stole my job, now he goes after my T? I know it's an apartment building and he could visit a friend but still! I never saw him there before, so why now? Especially as due to my sick leave last month my boss knows I see this T.

And yes I'm sure it's his car, it's actually a company car and I regularly type in the number plate at work.

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[Hexagram]

Show no fear! Ask T if T knows anything about the company car.

[Jordy]

She won't know, the company car is not marked in any way. All I could ask if she saw a tattooed long haired biker guy. And I doubt she could tell me.

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[ThisWayOut]

Originally Posted by Hexagram

Show no fear! Ask T if T knows anything about the company car.

just be prepared in case confidentiality prevents T from confirming or denying your co-worker being a client...

also, i'm not sure how your co-worker could "take" your T from you. T has multiple clients. while it can be uncomfortable thinking about T also seeing your co-worker as a client, I doubt it would impact your relationship with T.

I've actually had students who were seeing my T and we ran into each other at his office. T handled it well and so did the kids. It really wasn't a problem.

[Jordy]

Well I was partly right: he's in the waiting room with me and his girlfriend is in session.

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[Soccer mom]

I know how hard that can be! I recently saw a "friend" at my T's office and freaked out. My T. and I talked about it over several sessions and now it doesn't bother me (and I'm not sure why LOL). So, you COULD just say that it bothers you without her confirming it's him or girlfriend - just how you felt no matter who the person was? I told my T. I didn't want to share her, her like the other person more, etc. She said that was one of the best sessions because I said so many of my feelings. I just glared at her.

[Jordy]

T didn't need to tell me anything as when she opened the door to the waiting room my co-worker was sitting there. I went like: "Oh hi" he saif Hi back and T sensed some akwardness so she asked if having someone else in the waiting area was a problem. To which I told her "no problem" and added in my co-workers direction "no one at work needs to know what happens in our free time". T realized we knew each other and asked again if we were ok, which we both confirmed.

We actually spent half an hour waiting together and we used that time to talk a bit about work, and clear some of the confusion that was going on lately. So basically meeting him there ended up being a good thing.

I briefly discussed this we T at the beginning of my session and she said I handled the situation very well. What she doesn't know is that what mainly triggers me about this guy is that he shares the same first name as my brother and I just can't say this name out loud. I probably should tell her next session...

[nervous puppy]

I'm glad it worked out for you! I would have freaked out too, but I don't think I could have handled it as well as you did.
Just curious, though, if he had the "company" car, how is it that he could use it to drive his girlfriend to her "Dr." appointment? It's probably no big deal, it's just where I work it used to be ok do a personal stop now and then, until someone abused the privilege...

[Jordy]

Yeah, I was also surprised at how well I handled the situation. But the fact that he was not the one in session was a big help to me.

It's a company car that he can use as his private car with a monthly fuel allowance. He can use it for whatever he wants, only has to pay any fuel over his allowance.

[Wren_]

It sounds like you did a great job handling it Jordy! and yes ... telling your T about the name trigger might help

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by nervous puppy

I'm glad it worked out for you! I would have freaked out too, but I don't think I could have handled it as well as you did.

Just curious, though, if he had the "company" car, how is it that he could use it to drive his girlfriend to her "Dr." appointment? It's probably no big deal, it's just where I work it used to be ok do a personal stop now and then, until someone abused the privilege...

Some auto companies give you company car to drive all the time. You can't give it to others to drive but can drive yourself every where

My exBF drives company cars for the past 15 years, every three months they take it away and give him s different one. And he has to report how the car worked. We drove those cars all over the country, not only allowed but also encouraged for testing purposes.


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[divine1966]

Good job jordy you did very well!

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[Jordy]

Thank you all!

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