Part of my issues Was my adoptive mother telling me what I thought or felt were false, that I didn't feel that way.

It's easter break now and as usual T brought up the break.

Today I said to her, I'm not denying I have feelings around the break but I feel I'm just nodding in agreement with you, I feel you're ramming it down my throat and I don't have time to think what my feelings really are.

T said, yes that's true, I do. It's also true your mother did that too and it is important for you to tell me that.

I didn't know what to say after that. The way she admitted it so quickly, threw me off a bit. But it felt good too. Gave me space to really begin to think what I maybe feeling.

[WrkNPrgress]

That's an interesting development. I'd say it sounds like you're at a point where you are learning to trust your own voice.

Good for you!

I like that your T agreed with you. When I was seeing my old T some things happened that felt similar to being with my mother, but my T always denied they were actually happening.

My mother also made me think that my feelings were false.

Once with my old T, during the session before a break she was talking so much I asked her if we could sit in silence.

I hope that the thing I wrote in one of your previous posts was ok, after woods I wondered if it might have been unhelpful. (You quite likely have no idea what I'm talking about).

[ThisWayOut]

I'm glad your T was validating
as an aside, I have never heard anyone else have that issue with their parents. Mine still tell me that whatever I'm feeling or thinking is false. They go so far as to correct my likes and dislikes with things. It can be crazy-making sometimes.

Oh yes! My likes were dismissed too.
It truly is a big mind f&@k.

[Soccer mom]

I'm grateful when my T. makes a connection to my past that I haven't based on what I've told her through our relationship. I easily get frustrated trying to come up with most of the answers on my own.

Your t sounds like a really good t Mouse.