[guilloche]

I realized yesterday, I've had more therapists than boyfriends. (I'm in my early 40s, so it's not an age thing.)

Also realized, trying to reframe, I've probably spent more years in therapy than I have in romantic relationships

Not feeling very sane or normal right now...

[unaluna]

Yeah my longest term relationships have been with my ts. Better this way, otherwise i would be in prison, or my hs would be, for murder look for the silver lining!

Originally Posted by guilloche

I realized yesterday, I've had more therapists than boyfriends. (I'm in my early 40s, so it's not an age thing.)

Me too - one boyfriend, three Ts. What is so crazy about that?

[WrkNPrgress]

And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

[LonesomeTonight]

I currently work part-time from home.* I realized recently that, aside from my husband and 4-year-old daughter, the people I spend the most time talking to and seeing face to face are my T and marriage counselor.

*Worked in an office till my daughter was born, then worked part-time from home while pursuing a grad degree (on campus), and been looking for a job outside of the home within that field since, oh, August. So I'm used to have more outside interaction.

[guilloche]

I've had 2 long-term boyfriends, 1 guy that I dated a couple of times, and 1 guy that was sort of in-between (in high school). So 4 (though that's kind of generous, but let's go with it).

Last time I did the math, I was on therapist #8! There were quite a few that I didn't count, who I had only seen once or twice.

Yeah, right now, the only people I really talk to regularly are my T and my piano teacher. Thank goodness my piano teacher is empathic, caring, and consistent (and all around a good guy). Because my T can be a bit hit and miss.

Thanks. It feels a little crazy right now.

[ThisWayOut]

Hmm... I've had over 18 T's, and most knew more about me than any significant relationship at the time. I'm on my second (and last ) wife, but only had 5 total serious relationships. I've seen my last 3 therapists more than I have my wife this past year (only temporarily living apart)...
I dunno if I like realizing that right now :P

[Chummy]

Me, zero boyfriends, about 20 T's (from 7 therapies)

[divine1966]

I kind of maybe wished I had more therapists than men. Hmm would do me more good

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[iheartjacques]

That doesn't seem wrong to me. The right person hasn't found you. Someone worth your time. A lot of people probably have regrets over time they've spent in bad relationships. You probably dodged a bullet

[guilloche]

You're all awesome, thanks for all the help reframing!

[Partless]

Originally Posted by guilloche

I realized yesterday, I've had more therapists than boyfriends. (I'm in my early 40s, so it's not an age thing.)

Also realized, trying to reframe, I've probably spent more years in therapy than I have in romantic relationships

Not feeling very sane or normal right now...

Hah, reminds me of someone who once said their longest close relationship was with their pet. Hopefully therapy can help all of us struggling with finding and keeping satisfying relationships in our lives.

[bounceback]

No boyfriends, about 7 therapists.

Therapy is not about changing any relationship, for me. I want to change myself, not other people; by changing myself I can hopefully appreciate my relationship more.

i have had no boyfriends and 3 t's