[Suraya]

Is it Murphy's Law or why does it seem that T always seems to take a vacation when I need her the most? Does anyone else ever feel this way?

She's gone for several weeks and I can't take it right now. Yesterday I kept crying on and off while dealing with so much hassle of what is going on in life right now. How am I going to count down the next three weeks until I see her again? This really sucks.

Don't you just hate when your weekly routine gets thrown for a loop when T takes a break and you have to have a long break between sessions? How do you get through it without falling apart?

I remember that, this too shall pass.

I hate breaks too. What helps me is trying not to think of her too much (so hard), counting down the days and using Psych central a lot for support.

I understand how painful kt is. My t has been gone for three and a half years because of a family emergency abroad and i am still waiting for her to come back. We talk on the phone wich is great but i deeply miss her physical presence.

[Rainydaiz]

Yes. Yes I do hate it. My t went away for two weeks recently meaning it would be three weeks before I saw her. She got back in the country and texted me to tell me...she was moving house the following week and I couldn't see her again. I was pretty devastated. I and been counting down the days and I had to go from what I thought was 4 to 11. It was just really hard. I found apart from that bit though, it started out bad then got easier. I don't think I could sustain that level of hurt for too long so I shut it all down. Big hugs to you. Me and my t are both off this week. Thank God it coincided. But it also coincided with a very difficult last session and me really needing her. So I get what you're saying.

[Rainydaiz]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

I understand how painful kt is. My t has been gone for three and a half years because of a family emergency abroad and i am still waiting for her to come back. We talk on the phone wich is great but i deeply miss her physical presence.

Oh my goodness that's awful. So sorry. Hugs

[Suraya]

It's just so weird....my best friend, who I can talk to everyday if I want to, could go on vacation for three weeks and I would be happy for her and not miss her. But T leaves...T, who I see for 50 minutes once a week and can't call up anytime I want to and can't hang out with leaves and I feel desperate. Why is this?

[Elisabetta346]

Originally Posted by Suraya

It's just so weird....my best friend, who I can talk to everyday if I want to, could go on vacation for three weeks and I would be happy for her and not miss her. But T leaves...T, who I see for 50 minutes once a week and can't call up anytime I want to and can't hang out with leaves and I feel desperate. Why is this?

I think its because your attached to her in a different way, its usually more of parent connection and because you probably view as safe (especially when your feeling vulnerable). Well you best friend your attached to her in a different way you love her or him but they are not your rock? Im sure if your best friend leaves for 7 weeks you would miss them as well. It will pass btw keep yourself distracted.

[Rainydaiz]

Originally Posted by Suraya

It's just so weird....my best friend, who I can talk to everyday if I want to, could go on vacation for three weeks and I would be happy for her and not miss her. But T leaves...T, who I see for 50 minutes once a week and can't call up anytime I want to and can't hang out with leaves and I feel desperate. Why is this?

My guess is that the attachment you have to your t is like that of a baby- at the agr when if their mother goes out of the room they panic and think that they're not coming back. You're not yet at the stage of the baby who is able to explore and come back to the safe base of their mother. Thi is how it is for me anyway.

Originally Posted by Rainydaiz

My guess is that the attachment you have to your t is like that of a baby- at the agr when if their mother goes out of the room they panic and think that they're not coming back. You're not yet at the stage of the baby who is able to explore and come back to the safe base of their mother. Thi is how it is for me anyway.

That makes some sort of sense.

[Suraya]

I guess that all makes sense. Does it get easier after the first week she's gone? I think if I didn't have so much going on in my life right now I wouldn't need her so much. I find myself falling into bad patterns like staying in bed too much and binge eating. It's hard to remember self-care strategies when life is stressful and missing T so much.

[Suraya]

Today should be our regular meeting day and I need her so bad after what happened the last two days. I hate when they take vacations and I erally hate when I can't deal with it!