[Suraya]

T is out of the country for two more weeks and I can't take it. She's already been gone nearly two weeks. There's no support person to call while she's away and I don't have a support system in place to help me through this extremely hard time. I've briefly talked to a couple of friends on the phone but it only makes me cry more because I feel so alone and at a loss. Why does life have to get so hard while she is away? I can barely get through my days and the stress and depression are making me feel sick and exhausted; I can hardly function. I guess I'm just looking for support right now to help me make it through the next couple of weeks. Thank you.

[ThisWayOut]

I'm sorry T did not leave you with another supportive resource during her absence.
I can relate to everything falling apart while T is gone. I think some of it may be made worse by the knowledge that T is not there for support when you need her.
Definitely keep coming back here. We're here for you.

I understand so well. It is very, very hard to get through a break. My t has been out of the country for three years and i still cry sometimes because i miss her so much.

[Suraya]

I can't even fathom three years....how do you do that? I can barely get through one day right now. All I do is cry and take extra Xanax.

I think it's really irresponsible of her to leave you with no support person. I am sorry.

[Suraya]

In her defense, none of the crap that has fallen apart in my life was foreseeable before she left. I felt fine at my last session so I didn't even bring up that I was in despair or worried that she was leaving. Now I'm just a mess.

Therapists should still provide a support/contact person for their clients when they go away no matter if you are doing well or not. It's just good practice and it is included in some codes of ethics.

[Suraya]

She never leaves a back up person. She always tells me way in advance that something is coming up. I suppose if I were to mention that I couldn't handle it we'd brainstorm possibilities, but every year she takes a long vacation and I've always been fine with it.

Right now, I have some personal and family things going on that are huge and life changing so I'm not handling things very well. I have to go to work everyday and I'm barely getting through the day without breaking down and crying. I'm counting the days until she's back and it's torture. How do others get through times like this?

[guilloche]

(((Suraya))) I'm so sorry, and I agree, she really should have some sort of backup person just in case her clients have a crisis. As you yourself said, even if you were fine last time, stuff happens... and it's not fair to leave you hanging for that long with no support.

Lots of hugs... I wish I had some great advice to help with the crying and breakdowns , I'm so sorry, it sounds really rough.

Is there any way to manage any of the things causing you to be in crisis? Like... when I'm really depressed, I don't answer my mom's phone calls. I screen my calls with an answering machine, because she makes me feel worse. It sucks, but I know that at some points, I can only deal with so much - and my mom is just going to push me over the edge of what I can deal with. So, part of my self-care is cut off contact with her when I need to, for my own sanity.