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#1
May 10, 2015, 12:11 PM
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I miss my own mother and I also know my T is a good mother. I just sent it in an email with no other message. Signed it love, of course. Am I hopeless or nice? Will anyone else with a female T who's a Mom do what I did? I admit I wanted to connect with her. No big deal. Tuesday is almost here.
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 Kat605, precaryous
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#2
May 10, 2015, 12:23 PM
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I think it's nice. Last month, I sent my T a 'Happy Easter' card.
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#3
May 10, 2015, 12:27 PM
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No, I thought about it but decided not to. I figured she would read more into it than there was. Surprisingly I don't see my T as a mom.
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#4
May 10, 2015, 12:36 PM
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#5
May 10, 2015, 12:58 PM
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This is the first year I haven't done that. I forgot! I think it's because I'm so incredibly pissed off and upset that I have to go to work on Mother's Day!!!!
Off to work I go;-(. Very grumpy.
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#6
May 10, 2015, 01:34 PM
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I thought about it but did not this year. I might have if I hadn't sent her two emails yesterday. Lol
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| Leah123
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#7
May 10, 2015, 01:55 PM
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I did. I'm not sure why other than to forge a connection. I have no one else to wish Happy Mothers Day to. Everyone is gone. I wonder how my T will take it. I've never done it before. She has kind of taken that role.
I guess I'll find out when or if she emails me back.
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| LonesomeTonight, precaryous, rainbow8
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#8
May 10, 2015, 04:31 PM
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No. She has grown children and I can't see her having been a good mother to have.
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#9
May 10, 2015, 05:05 PM
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Last year I gave her a card and a small gift card to a restaurant. The card said "Thank you for helping me be the mother I always wanted to be. Happy Mother's Day." At first she misunderstand and thought she really blurred boundaries. When I explained what I meant by it she was touched and thankful. Haven't done it yet this year as she is going..not sure what I will do this year.
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May 10, 2015, 05:43 PM
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I didn't. I don't know if she's a mother or not, I've never asked and somehow it's never come up in all this time. It didn't even occur to me to want to this year. Last year, was a different story. But I didn't then either. Too chicken!
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#11
May 10, 2015, 06:07 PM
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#12
May 10, 2015, 06:21 PM
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My T emailed back. She thanked me and wished the same to me, then said she'll see me Tuesday! She signed it " Love, T". The love, T scares me a little, but that's for another thread.
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| FranzJosef, JustShakey, PeeJay
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#13
May 10, 2015, 06:34 PM
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glad you heard back.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#14
May 10, 2015, 08:36 PM
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I sent her a beautiful interactive (online) garden-themed mother's day card. (We do long distance therapy, so everything is phone or online.)
She emailed, thanking me for being so thoughtful and said the card was delightful plus a personal little message that made me see she did appreciate it. I see her as my therapeutic "Good Enough Mother," an understanding we share, and while I was still a little self-conscious about sending (I'm stressed out which exacerbates my insecurities) I'm glad I did. Happy Mother's Day to all of you mothers out there!!! Last edited by Leah123; May 10, 2015 at 09:04 PM. |
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#15
May 10, 2015, 08:40 PM
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No, she is not a mom. She does feel like a mom to be sometimes. All day I have been hoping she would send me an email wishing me Happy Mother's Day. She hasn't and my feelings are hurt. Pathetic, I know.
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| FranzJosef, Leah123, rainbow8
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#16
May 10, 2015, 08:59 PM
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I randomly want to send my male T Mother's Day wishes O.o Transference FTW... It never really occurred to me that I might have maternal transference toward him...
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May 11, 2015, 08:33 AM
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May 11, 2015, 07:01 PM
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Madame T liked the flowers I sent her for Mother's Day.
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#19
May 11, 2015, 08:32 PM
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My T did email back and she said, "you too." The rest of the email was concerned with something else we have been discussing. I didn't get the feeling she was offended or that she felt that it was outside the boundries of our relationship.
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#20
May 12, 2015, 05:37 PM
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I couldn't possibly send something like this to my T! But that's because I don't really wish many people happy mother's day. Painful day for me.
...I'm glad you heard back! |
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#21
May 12, 2015, 07:44 PM
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No, I did not wish my T a happy Mother's Day. That wouldn't feel appropriate to me. Mother's Day is for her and her kids. However, I had my regular session today and T told me that she thought of me on Mother's Day. She knows that I don't have a mom and often struggle on Mother's Day, so she said she thought about how I was doing. I told her that this Mother's Day wasn't as bad as it has been in the past because of the work I've done with her in therapy and the relationship I have with her. I've internalized her care and support, and I no longer feel like I'm missing out on quite as much. T and I both were close to getting teary, and she smiled and said: "Because now you know there's someone out there in the world who loves you." It was really sweet.
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#22
May 12, 2015, 08:26 PM
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I've told my T happy mother's day before both of the female ones. They both do have kids of their own. I have a male T now and he'd probably laugh if I wished him happy father's day! I might though. We tease so much he'd get such a kick out of it. And he is a father figure to me so yeah.
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#23
May 12, 2015, 09:01 PM
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I meant to say it during our last session but forgot. Just because she's a Mom.
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#24
May 12, 2015, 09:17 PM
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I just said as I was leaving that I hoped she had a good day and her kids did something nice for her.
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| FranzJosef, rainbow8
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