Emailed T happy mother's day

I miss my own mother and I also know my T is a good mother. I just sent it in an email with no other message. Signed it love, of course. Am I hopeless or nice? Will anyone else with a female T who's a Mom do what I did? I admit I wanted to connect with her. No big deal. Tuesday is almost here.

I think it's nice. Last month, I sent my T a 'Happy Easter' card.

No, I thought about it but decided not to. I figured she would read more into it than there was. Surprisingly I don't see my T as a mom.

I was also referring to my T as a good Mom to HER adult kids. She's talked about them a fair amount, and I read some comments to her from them on FB. I'm not so jealous anymore. I like that she's a good Mom!

This is the first year I haven't done that. I forgot! I think it's because I'm so incredibly pissed off and upset that I have to go to work on Mother's Day!!!!

Off to work I go;-(.

Very grumpy.

I thought about it but did not this year. I might have if I hadn't sent her two emails yesterday. Lol

I did. I'm not sure why other than to forge a connection. I have no one else to wish Happy Mothers Day to. Everyone is gone. I wonder how my T will take it. I've never done it before. She has kind of taken that role.
I guess I'll find out when or if she emails me back.

No. She has grown children and I can't see her having been a good mother to have.

Last year I gave her a card and a small gift card to a restaurant. The card said "Thank you for helping me be the mother I always wanted to be. Happy Mother's Day." At first she misunderstand and thought she really blurred boundaries. When I explained what I meant by it she was touched and thankful.

Haven't done it yet this year as she is going..not sure what I will do this year.

I didn't. I don't know if she's a mother or not, I've never asked and somehow it's never come up in all this time. It didn't even occur to me to want to this year. Last year, was a different story. But I didn't then either. Too chicken!

I understand perfectly.

My T emailed back. She thanked me and wished the same to me, then said she'll see me Tuesday! She signed it " Love, T". The love, T scares me a little, but that's for another thread.

glad you heard back.

I sent her a beautiful interactive (online) garden-themed mother's day card. (We do long distance therapy, so everything is phone or online.)

She emailed, thanking me for being so thoughtful and said the card was delightful plus a personal little message that made me see she did appreciate it.

I see her as my therapeutic "Good Enough Mother," an understanding we share, and while I was still a little self-conscious about sending (I'm stressed out which exacerbates my insecurities) I'm glad I did.

Happy Mother's Day to all of you mothers out there!!!

No, she is not a mom. She does feel like a mom to be sometimes. All day I have been hoping she would send me an email wishing me Happy Mother's Day. She hasn't and my feelings are hurt. Pathetic, I know.

I randomly want to send my male T Mother's Day wishes O.o Transference FTW... It never really occurred to me that I might have maternal transference toward him...

Did your T email back?

I'm glad your T understood.

Thank you, Leah. I'm glad to see you here again!

Virginia, most Ts would NOT send a card or email unless you write first. It doesn't mean she doesn't care about you! It's just not something Ts do. They don't initiate emails unless its about scheduling. Can you talk to your T and tell her your feelings? I hope you had a nice Mother's Day.

Madame T liked the flowers I sent her for Mother's Day.

So that would be a good place to draw a line under our relationship. (If I have the sense to do so, which is doubtful!)

My T did email back and she said, "you too." The rest of the email was concerned with something else we have been discussing. I didn't get the feeling she was offended or that she felt that it was outside the boundries of our relationship.

I couldn't possibly send something like this to my T! But that's because I don't really wish many people happy mother's day. Painful day for me.

...I'm glad you heard back!

No, I did not wish my T a happy Mother's Day. That wouldn't feel appropriate to me. Mother's Day is for her and her kids. However, I had my regular session today and T told me that she thought of me on Mother's Day. She knows that I don't have a mom and often struggle on Mother's Day, so she said she thought about how I was doing. I told her that this Mother's Day wasn't as bad as it has been in the past because of the work I've done with her in therapy and the relationship I have with her. I've internalized her care and support, and I no longer feel like I'm missing out on quite as much. T and I both were close to getting teary, and she smiled and said: "Because now you know there's someone out there in the world who loves you." It was really sweet.

I've told my T happy mother's day before both of the female ones. They both do have kids of their own. I have a male T now and he'd probably laugh if I wished him happy father's day! I might though. We tease so much he'd get such a kick out of it. And he is a father figure to me so yeah.

I meant to say it during our last session but forgot. Just because she's a Mom.

I just said as I was leaving that I hoped she had a good day and her kids did something nice for her.