[ThingWithFeathers]

This has probably already been asked in a past thread, but I'm wondering how others feel about their ts.

I love my t (and not in a sexual way!) and care about her a great deal. I know we're all different, so I thought I'd put a poll out to see where most people place themselves.

[musinglizzy]

I feel the same way about mine....even though we've had some issues the past few months and I've been pretty angry and frustrated with her. That doesn't change how I feel about her.

[stopdog]

I don't despise the woman usually.

My T is an evil monster who ruined my career of 30+ years to make himself look good. I honestly don't know how he could do this to me.

I love my T in a purely platonic way, much like I love other people in my life who I share with, spend time with, am open with. It isn't anything transferential in any way, shape, or form. (Other people probably don't use "love" in this context; they use "like a great deal," but I don't have any hang-ups about using the word in this kind of friendly context).

[divine1966]

I respect my t most of the time and she respects me. I don't feel love. I honestly don't know her enough to care too deep. I would not want anything to happen to her of course.

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I've worked through my share of transference. But on the other side of that, I can still honestly say that I love her, the "her" that I know of course; the love I feel for her is similar to the love I feel for my creative writing teacher that I had in high school, that I'm still in touch with 35 years later. Like, it includes a lot of respect that goes both ways.

I go through stages of hating and loving my t- lately it's been more the hating type feelings.
I only know her through our therapeutic relationship so it's limited.
Through all of her mistakes and flaws it has thought me that ts are human and make ****** mistakes like the rest of us. To be honest I have a deep attachment to her that in some ways soothes me but in other ways distressed me.

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I like my current T, I love my former T. The current T situation is much healthier for me.

[Chummy]

I really like my current T. Love is a bit too strong.
Every T I had before her I disliked or even hated.

[brillskep]

I can say I love my therapist. I have had the opportunity to be with him in other contexts than my therapy too and he also shares quite a bit about his life, including some less-than-flattering behaviors (though he does keep the non-flattering to a minimum ) so I do feel like I've got to know him after all these years. It's a sort of liking and admiring him combined with wishing him the best as well as gratitude for all his help, which goes way beyond what he's paid for. It's an interesting feeling to care so deeply about someone who is there to help me. His job IS to help and it's usually about me, though at the same time I truly care about his well-being. It's interesting for me to get to a point of balance between these two aspects.

[Ford Puma]

I am slow to find any feelings off considerations towards others. T though I do like.

[ruh roh]

I love how she is as a therapist, and I love what I know about her (which is mostly how she is as a therapist, plus some other things).

I like the one I have now.

I think it is interesting how most people love or like their therapist and yet this forum is accused often of being more negative toward therapy. To me it seems more positive toward therapy and I think this poll for me proves that theory.

But I also think what you see depends on your point of view.

I have love in my heart like I do for a few former professors that mentored me, and some really close friends.

I don't like my T as a person. She's too judging and talks too much.

I really like my pdoc. He's very smart, very respectful and really tries to help.

[Myrto]

Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987

I like the one I have now.

I think it is interesting how most people love or like their therapist and yet this forum is accused often of being more negative toward therapy. To me it seems more positive toward therapy and I think this poll for me proves that theory.

But I also think what you see depends on your point of view.

Perhaps it's because you can love your therapist AND be angry at them, feel hurt by them, etc. Attachment issues.
I chose "I love my T" but honestly I also hate her sometimes, she makes me furious, she hurts me, but she also reassures me and clearly cares.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I like my new T. She nice and seems to be a good T.

I love(d) my ex-T, and I hate her. I guess if you use the defintion that hate means love gone wrong, it makes sense. I will probably love ex-T for the rest of my life. It's just how I am. And the hate will subside over time if it's similar to past abandonments, but that might take years.

[stopdog]

I was expecting more people to join me on my neutral neither like nor dislike stance.

[JustShakey]

I'm awfully fond of my T. He's like that soothing blue after-sun lotion that I don't think they make anymore... Used to love that stuff.

[nervous puppy]

I like my current t. It seems that it's a good fit therapeutically speaking. But don't feel any particularly strong feelings towards her.
I loved my old t, more than I realized.

[AllHeart]

I love her and she loves me. Yahoo!!!!!