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Jun 09, 2015, 08:22 PM
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i was wondering if you have any advice for me- i have been seeing a therapist for the last 4 months...from the beginning i wasn't so comfortable, but i though that may be i was the one who was crazy because i hate talking about my feelings.
recently i was reflecting on it and realized that she is very judgemental, pressurizing and really not the right fit for me. she can be late for a session, forget about it, cancel too frequently for me...all with legitimate reasons each time of course. i understand that i can hurt her if i don't "say goodbye" but i am too scared to have another session for fear that she'll pressure me into changing my mind... what do you suggest? thank you for your time in advance |
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Jun 09, 2015, 10:07 PM
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I don't think that terminating without a goodbye will hurt her at all. It would be concerning if it did, especially after only 4 months. You can email your decision or leave a voice message. Thank her and cut her loose.
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Jun 09, 2015, 10:58 PM
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Well, if you are not happy with her you are perfectly entitled to leave at any time. I mean, she is paid for a service after all... You can always send something written, call her office/secretary, leave a voicemail or (if feasible) stop coming altogether.
From the description you give, it doesn't seem you are close anyway and therefore seems unlikely that you would hurt her. Ultimately, I can only advise you to do what is best for you. |
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Jun 09, 2015, 11:04 PM
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If there are any negative feelings, it would be out of regret or frustration for not being able to help you. But, hurt - no. Come to think of it, this is about the only way I've ever stopped seeing professionals. I don't think I've ever had 'that discussion'. You just have to 'do what you've gotta do'. |
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Jun 09, 2015, 11:10 PM
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You need to find a doctor that will listen to you and help you. If this doctor is not doing it and you do not feel comfortable then do not go back. I would not.
If you do not feel comfortable telling her face to face then send her an email. Sometimes it's not the right "fit" with a doctor and if she is being judgmental that is way out of line. Her office is the place that you need to feel comfortable talking about your feelings. Get a new doctor. Good luck and keep us posted
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Jun 09, 2015, 11:15 PM
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I suggest that you trust your gut. Everything you wrote makes it sound like leaving informally makes good sense. If you regret it, you can always write to her later or check back in, but you're under no obligation.
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Jun 10, 2015, 03:52 AM
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Mine became enraged when I wanted to leave therapy--not for my benefit, but for theirs. (They were co-therapists.) I found my therapists to be more vain, self-deceiving, dishonest, needy and fragile than the average population.
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