So hubby has flown to Zurich this morning.
We've been married almost 30yrs. There's no clinginess between us. Just a normal couple who've been together a long time with all that entails.
So I'm busy tidying the house just now and suddenly feel the silence his absence has left. Than I think about T. She doesn't have a partner (adopted and raised 2 children alone) but she gas 'friends /family and I'm thinking about her life, her friends. How me or any of her clients are 'not that'. That it wouldn't be right for that to be so.
I remember reading that a T should have her needs met outside the therapeutic relationship.
Something about this thought highlighted that for me.
It showed me just how she allows herself to be 'used' by me as I need to 'use' her.
But that our personal lifes are just that, and they need to be.
Does that make sense?
This thinking doesn't take away from what I have with T, but it does show me what it is and what it isn't.

[gayleggg]

Yes, it is good that a T have their own life outside of their work life. They need to balance work and home life just like everyone else. This allows them to be there for us when we need them. Just as our lives should be balanced and not totally focused on our therapeutic relationship. And that is what a T has the responsibility of doing, is showing us how to balance our lives.

[SoupDragon]

I often think of my T as Whoopi Goldberg in Ghost. The way that Patrick Swayze used her to connect with Demi Moore.

When he was using her, she was totally there for him, but then had her own life away from him before eventually saying goodbye to him when he had achieved what he needed to achieve.

And yet I think the moments of connection and closeness a T might feel with a client is a positive thing in their life

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I often think of my T as Whoopi Goldberg in Ghost. The way that Patrick Swayze used her to connect with Demi Moore.

When he was using her, she was totally there for him, but then had her own life away from him before eventually saying goodbye to him when he had achieved what he needed to achieve.

Excellent comparison

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

And yet I think the moments of connection and closeness a T might feel with a client is a positive thing in their life

Score! I kinda think this seems less crazy than getting excited over hitting a ball.