If your t said that you could have ANY one request/wish from him/her and it would be accepted and granted unconditionally, with no judgment... What would you ask for and why?

[musinglizzy]

I'd ask to have her shoulder to cry on back when the situation warranted it. It made me feel safe, and less vulnerable.

[growlycat]

No "all of the above" ?

[scorpiosis37]

I feel very lucky right now; my T has already given me all of the above.

Originally Posted by growlycat

No "all of the above" ?

I am SOOOO with you growlycat,,,, that's why I had to say one or I would be writing wishes all night long.... LOL

[junkDNA]

to take me to the cheesecake factory like he said he would. we were gonna go but time ran out. i havent forgotten though lol

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

I feel very lucky right now; my T has already given me all of the above.

Awesome scorpiosis,,,, sounds like you are VERY LUCKY indeed. I think I would burst into tears if half of those happened. I am glad you have such a wonderful t.

Originally Posted by junkDNA

to take me to the cheesecake factory like he said he would. we were gonna go but time ran out. i havent forgotten though lol

Ok, how'd you get that one?????? LOL.... I want to get my t to do something like that to!!!!

[growlycat]

I can't complain I guess. Long-term T has given me all of the above and more.

CBT T, maybe #1 and #5.

All were given without needing to be requested

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by lt12345

Ok, how'd you get that one?????? LOL.... I want to get my t to do something like that to!!!!

he drove me to another city to have a lawsuit mediation and we were gonna go afterwards. but the mediation took all day. so we didnt have time. i love cheesecake factory. its the best

[Ellahmae]

My T has given me all of the above already and continues to do so.

[stopdog]

The woman would explain what is supposed to happen when she talks - what the point of what she says is - why she says it - what she is trying to do.
I do not want any of the things on the list - I actively make sure none of them happen.

[rainbow8]

My T has given me all of those things too. I would like her to paint a picture in oils for me. When I thought I was quitting therapy, she said we could paint together in the session. Since I didn't have to quit, I didn't ask to paint though I would really like her to paint something for me.

[Leah123]

I've pretty much experienced all of those with my therapist as well, although she says 'sending love' on rare occasion rather than "I love you."

Usually, I'd want more time, but as a post-graduation debriefing, we're doing four sessions this week. I suppose more time would be my usual request, though I really don't want anything more at the moment, we've had a really really good run lately.

[pbutton]

I have received all of those things, except for him saying he loves me. I'd imagine that has to be at least in part because I am so dissimssively avoidant that he knows it would likely cause my head to explode.

I can't think of anything else I'd want him to give to me. My main wish right now is that I'd find a way to give myself a little more freedom to share while in his office. I always have all these grand plans.... and then I shut down and seem to "forget" 80% of what I wanted to tell him. Sigh.

[lightcatcher]

I have the opportunity for most of the above.
In my perfect world T and I would still have a relationship after therapy ends. I don't need to be T's friend in a movie, dinner, hang out kinda way. Just a coffee every now and then to continue contact.

I've had some encouraging words and rare hugs (if I ask) and rare friendly touch.

My request would be to get to know her as a person outside of therapy.

I wish we could be sworn sisters but I know it's transference talking!

I think her friends and family are fortunate to have her as she has said she values loyalty and relationships highly.

I wish my T would let me see her twice a week for the same price as once.

Other, I think. Some of the things on the list I wouldn't want, and those I would want would not be good for me. I do get encouraging words (not always overtly so, but I find that they encourage and help me when I think about them outside the session, and I think that counts )

[RedSun]

I get the very, very occasional touch on the arm, and lots of encouraging words.
I wouldn't want the rest now.
I would really like a cup of tea (still! It's all I ever want!)
And I would like some time just talking, chilling, not sitting in our T chairs but maybe in the garden....it would take the spotlight off for a bit.

Oh, ooh, can I do the cup of tea wish, too? It would be so good in so many ways. (Honestly, what's the point of having an English T if he won't even make me a cuppa? )

[ScarletPimpernel]

From ex-T I would want one more hug and to have communication again.

I don't want anything from new T atm. I want to have a deeper connection with her. If I had that, then I'd probably the hugs.

[CantExplain]

I'd like to see some remorse.

From T1 I would truly love for him to be honest with himself (and me) about what went on, and what his true feelings were/are. I would love a hug too, but an honest conversation would be the most important thing.