I am thinking about giving up.. Only my second session with the new guy and he already took a 2 week vacation. I was in his office when he told me this and it killed me.. I was a mess the 2 weeks he was gone (comes back tomorrow; appt tomorrow too). I don't know. I've been through to many therapists and I just feel like I will never get better.
Sorry, I don't think theres a question here I just needed to let this out.

[AllHeart]

I'm there with ya, psychmajor. I feel like everyone has the potential to get better...except me. I am "this close" to giving up myself.

I wish you well!!!

[Partless]

Psychmajor, you felt rejected when your therapist said that about the vacation? Like as if it's a sign of person not being very caring to begin with?

[ScarletPimpernel]

Your T probably had his vacation scheduled long in advance. Your first session was probably a get to know you session, to see if you two mesh. You agreed to continue so on the second visit he informed you of the vacation. So I don't understand what your T did wrong? Do you think he should have delayed seeing you till after the vacation? Or cancel the vacation just for you?

I'm sorry it's been a difficult two weeks. I don't understand why that would make you want to quit. Again, what did your T do wrong? If anything I would think that would show how much you need a T.

Maybe you're just scared. You've only seen this T a few times. Give him a chance. He may or may not work out for you, but that doesn't mean give up.

When I first started therapy, I had an introductory session, then the T couldn't see me for two weeks. The following week we had a session, then I was on vacation for a week. Like you, I was a mess, it was hard. I think your T should have told you when he started that he was about to go on vacation.

[FranzJosef]

It's OK to give up on T. But don't give up on yourself.

There are better Ts out there.

[MusicMike]

Like my T says, everything that happens in therapy is "grist for the mill." That is, everything gives you a chance to learn more about your needs and learn what will help you get better.

For instance, seeing him and maybe getting some hope up, and then losing him for two weeks, may trigger old abandonment issues. Can you say more about your emotions during these two weeks?

Please don't give up.

[ruh roh]

Originally Posted by psychmajor18

I am thinking about giving up.. Only my second session with the new guy and he already took a 2 week vacation. I was in his office when he told me this and it killed me.. I was a mess the 2 weeks he was gone (comes back tomorrow; appt tomorrow too). I don't know. I've been through to many therapists and I just feel like I will never get better.
Sorry, I don't think theres a question here I just needed to let this out.

I understand. It doesn't have to have anything at all to do with you, even poor timing can feel defeating.

In the past year, I had both a therapist and a pdoc move away, and then new pdoc died within just a couple months of the other one moving. I really like the therapist I'm seeing now, but it always feels like there's sand shifting under my feet. Every time there's a move or loss, I feel like it's all too much work to keep going. But then I do...and you will, too. Hang in there.

[musinglizzy]

I think your T should have told you from the very beginning that he had a 2 week vacation. Perhaps given you the option to start after he got back. Although I do agree with the poster who talked about an initial session to get to know each other, then waited two weeks for sessions to start. Perhaps this is what he was thinking. Give you a couple sessions, then let you think on it to see if he's right for you. I still think he should have told you in the beginning.... but I don't think I'd give up on him yet if everything else feels right. You're only two sessions in.

[divine1966]

I am sorry. Don't give up

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