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As some of you may know my old-T just up and quit one day and that hurt me bad (like bad enough that I refuse to ever go to therapy again). And she left to work at the VA. Now when I think about the VA I fell jealousy.

My old t dumped me seven years ago out of nowhere. The grief was really bad the first few years. After six years it got a lot better. Now it is just an occassional thing.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T abandoned me just 14 weeks ago. I'm still grieving the loss.

[PinkFlamingo99]

I have grieved BADLY in the past, crying daily for a good year.

This time, it's not as bad. It's been about 10 weeks since I saw her and 5 months since things started feeling "wrong." I ODed and ended up in the hospital in Feb because of the situation. It still hurts horribly but the pain is fading a bit.

[divine1966]

I didn't grieve over my previous therapist, that was years ago. I occasionally wonder how she is doing but that's about it. I would probably grieve a bit about this one because she is pretty good. I don't plan on quitting t for awhile but she is in retirement age and might quit any time

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I had three really good therapists and each of those relationships ended very amicably. Two were fairly abrupt endings due to moves. This last one ended more slowly and naturally. I can't say I really grieved losing them. Sure, I thought about them from time to time, but I wasn't in pain or upset for the endings. Life moved on I guess. It helped that we ended on very good terms; I'm sure that makes a huge difference. One thing I've learned is there are other very good therapists for me to move on with.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

I had three really good therapists and each of those relationships ended very amicably. Two were fairly abrupt endings due to moves. This last one ended more slowly and naturally. I can't say I really grieved losing them. Sure, I thought about them from time to time, but I wasn't in pain or upset for the endings. Life moved on I guess. It helped that we ended on very good terms; I'm sure that makes a huge difference. One thing I've learned is there are other very good therapists for me to move on with.

I agree about leaving on good terms. That helps. My last t had to stop seeing me as I finished grad school and she was only allowed to see students at the time. This one just might retire or I might decide to stop therapy or I might move further.

I can't imagine finishing on bad terms. I never finish anything on bad terms with anyone as I am very non confrontational ( not always good thing). I am friends or at least on very good terms with all my exes. Lol so if i can do that I can certainly end nicely with therapists

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It's been almost two years since I had a very bad ending with a therapist. I still cry sometimes. I don't ever want to see him again and I think in some ways he was toxic, but it still hurts. It is a lot less than it was, but sometimes it just hits me hard, the pain and rejection and loss. I trusted him like I had never trusted anyone and probably will never trust anyone again. It's painful.

[susan900]

Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987

It's been almost two years since I had a very bad ending with a therapist. I still cry sometimes. I don't ever want to see him again and I think in some ways he was toxic, but it still hurts. It is a lot less than it was, but sometimes it just hits me hard, the pain and rejection and loss. I trusted him like I had never trusted anyone and probably will never trust anyone again. It's painful.

So sorry puzzlebug,, that you had a bad ending with a therapist. I had hard time 3 years ago.. I wanted to see my Therapist as he had said .. he will see me in a few months.. but it never happened, I called him at Therapist Office. and send messages but he wouldn't talk to me.. he even said to me (last time I spoke to him) im not your friend! I was so hurt.. but after a few month.. It was very hard but I got over him.. though I would like to still meet him if he asked me too.

Take care, and best of luck.

I handled leaving T1 and the death of a close family member very similarly.

About a solid week of sobbing, then things got a little easier the following weeks though still the heavy, empty feeling.

It's been maybe a year now without T1 and I still choke up at times when something reminds me of him. Day to day I hardly notice he isn't there anymore, then something will strike me hard and I'll take a few minutes to cry and let it out.

[LadyGazelle]

Mine got a new job and left me I'm still grieving the loss and that was almost 2 months ago.

[Coco3]

It's been two months now and I'm still grieving. I'm lucky we ended on good terms, and I'm grateful for our last session. I can take comfort from that.

[iheartjacques]

Last good T terminated me abruptly. I was puzzled for a while. Then angry then sad. Took me about a year to get over it.

[wheeler]

My first T ended pretty badly and it took me about 3-4 years of working with various T's before I started to move thru it. My current T has helped me a lot, and I've been with her now for about 5 years. I'll still sometimes wish I could contact old T, let her know where I'm at, and I'd really LOVE to understand why she ended with me. I certainly don't feel the anguish that I used to feel but there will always be a sadness about it for me.