I hope everyone is having a good day today!

Some therapy moments are so warm that it fills my heart. They don't have to be earth-shattering or huge.

I like warm. I like quiet. It's comfortable and comforting to me.

The times I feel 'held', cared for, just by her demeanor of warmth and acceptance, the lilt in her voice, the concern in her eyes... are so meaningful to me and sometimes I just sit there and enjoy it for a minute. I haven't got to the point where I can say what I'm experiencing at that moment but working on it.

Warm can be sharing a laugh too.

And getting needs met when risking verbalizing them.

I asked at the end of the session, one of my 'please reassure me' questions... "Am I doing ok in here?" and added "If I wasn't doing ok or if you felt I was not capable of depth work, would you tell me?".

She said I was doing fine like last week she said 'You are just where you need to be right now'. And that yes she would tell me.

I said good because I wouldn't want to be wasting her time and she said immediately, "or yours".

I said, "I want a grade!" and laughed! She did too, then gently said with such kindness in her eyes and in her wonderfully soothing and warm tone, "There are no grades in therapy.".

I knew that. But I wanted her to say it anyway. I didn't expect it to feel so good though. It had a feeling of intimacy about it that I just really really love.

SecretGarden, I think you were right.. I am floating. Floating right over the depression and despair I usually have at this time.

I like it.

yay

[MissCharlotte]

Echoes,

It sounds like you and your T have a great relationship.

When I read "warm moments" what came to mind was a session when I was in really bad shape. My son was in the hospital and I was very depressed. Actually I was a wreck. T just looked at me and said,"Sister you have to take care of yourself." And I replied, "I am trying." And he looked at me with gentle eyes and softly said, "I know."

It was so gentle and soft and warm I can still feel it. It was real validation.

[SecretGarden]

Thank you for sharing that warm moment Sister.

I find myself lately really missing my first pdoc... as he was warm and fuzzy and as my current pdoc said he pulled me out of water as I was drowning. I do remember one time that I was really at a low time when I said I would ask you for a hug if I thought it would be legal.... and he gave me a hug.

Echoes, I am so pleased for you and where you are right now. You have worked so hard to get to where you are.... through trial and error and difficult times. I know that there are times that we are so used to feeling rough that it is difficult to believe or let ourselves feel good. As I have taped to my computer at work... you know already... Trust Happiness. Allow yourself to feel nourished and enjoy the experience.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((( ECHOES and T ))))))

I am glad for you those of you who internalize those moments and stay connected.

[dalila]

<font color="green">One of the most powerful ‘warm’ moments in therapy for me was during EMDR. My therapist was talking about how others who had abused me, had missed out knowing me, that ‘they missed the treasure that was me.’ Perhaps because I was working so hard or because of the EMDR that just sunk into my heart. I was startled by the intensity of the emotion, looked into her eyes, and asked did she think I was a treasure. I could hardly breathe and felt my face turn bright red as I said it. She didn’t give me time to retreat or reject it, she said, ‘Yes, you are a treasure.” Those words sank deep into my heart and I walked around for a month or more using them like a warm blanket around my soul to cushion and protect it. "My therapist thinks I am a treasure"!</font>

[jacq10]

((((((((((((((((((ECHOES))))))))))))))

[sunrise]

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<font color="green">My therapist was talking about how others who had abused me, had missed out knowing me, that ‘they missed the treasure that was me.’ !</font>

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Ahhhhh.... (((dalila))) I've had some really warm moments during our EMDR sessions also. One time while we were doing EMDR, my T played a lullaby for me, and I just sobbed... (I think it is cool he uses music sometimes in therapy. It's very powerful.)