Lightbulb moments?

I had a lightbulb moment today! It's hard to describe here though.

What is your lightbulb moment, or lightbulb moments that are making or will make your life and the lives of those around you better?

((((( Fuzzy )))))
I don't really have any to share but I'm glad you had a light bulb moment today.

I had a lightbulb moment the other day....that I really raised myself. And realizing that, I was able to forgive myself a little for my many, many, many flaws...I mean, who can do a great job of parenting at three??

It was one of the first positive thoughts I've had about myself. I'm trying to hang on to it.

Hi Fuzz

I have had some lightbulb moments in my life. Unfortunately, I just turn the light off, and ignore the moment. Hope you are able to do better with yours!!




Dee

Fuzzy, you have to tell us first (what your moment was).

I guess it was like earthmama's in that I raised myself (my parents actions didn't meet their words) and, was punished if not quiet and passive. As well as my parents and also the extended family ignoring and invalidating me, all I knew how to do was ignore myself. So despite the mess ups I've made in life and the reactions of some people (including one T, although I really didn't do anything wrong there, he got burnt out) I'm trying to be gentler with myself.
And learn from mistakes but not ignore and beat myself up endlessly... but if I do, I know where those come from (childhood)

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(((fuzzybear)))))

what has helped me lately is finding inner peace.. from there i am able to approach more of my daily tasks from a place of quiet strength, compassion, and kindness...

the things that may give each of us inner peace (inner strength) vary.... having confidence that we can reach our goals is part of the peace.. even if we dont reach the ultimate, we can feel more peaceful knowing we have done our best today and in this moment...

i am so happy to hear that you've discovered gentle, loving patience with yourself.... friends always

sounds like you are on a good path fuzzy, understanding the origin and nature of a problem is the first major step in its resolution, great going on the epihany!!

They unscrewed my light bulb and tossed it

(((Fuzzy)))

TJ

You can replace it with a compact flourescent bulb...

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(((fuzzybear)))))

what has helped me lately is finding inner peace.. from there i am able to approach more of my daily tasks from a place of quiet strength, compassion, and kindness...

the things that may give each of us inner peace (inner strength) vary.... having confidence that we can reach our goals is part of the peace.. even if we dont reach the ultimate, we can feel more peaceful knowing we have done our best today and in this moment...

i am so happy to hear that you've discovered gentle, loving patience with yourself.... friends always

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For me, my lightbulb moment is usally my 12 year old dd... I see her coming toward me and it makes me smile...because for me she is my best creation ever...

Tj

I think another critical lightbulb moment was realizing that my exhusband was not who I actually thought he was....and I had known him for 20 years... I think it was basically an image that he portrayed every day....but once you really got to know him and lived with him he was not that person...it was all a facade. For years I was dumbfounded as to what the problem was, he was intelligent, he was well spoken, he was attractive, but he could not hold down the great jobs that he seemed to obtain....had crappy financial skills...and seemed to use the people in his life...and lived only for today....

One day I was on the phone with him and out of the blue something said, the confusion is not him it is with you. You bought into the image that he portrayed and wondered why the inconsistencies...it is because that is not who he really is....that is who he tries to be and who YOU WANT HIM TO BE...but based on NPD....he is never living up to that...and will never live up to that! It may sound silly, but for me that broke the cycle of constantly trying to figure out why our wonderful life wasn't so wonderful....a dream deferred.... I now, can accept him for who he is, and with therapy, work on helping him to manage the negative behavior that is holding him back....

TJ

that sounds like such a great lightbulb moment for the two of you.. i can imagine the road of healing, learning and loving that is waiting for you... doing the best for each other and being able to look back and see the values of the experiences... best wishes always