[Abarry]

I have been seeing a social worker through a family service organization for a variety of issues for about two years. During this time, I have experienced one life crisis after another. I lost a young pet due to the incompetence of a veterinarian; I lost two jobs; I am faced with the loss of my home; money issues; family problems, etc.

This therapist seemed nice enough, and I am coping pretty well, all things considered. But I feel stuck. Plus, my therapist just did something that I am very concerned about.

I had to reschedule our usual appointment because I had to go out of town. I called the agency and did so. My therapist later called me to remind me to make an appointment. That seemed odd, because I already had. So I called her back and left her a message to inform her that I had made another appointment, letting her know the day and time.

However, my therapist scheduled another client for that time slot without consulting with me. I was FURIOUS! Then she lied about by saying that she did call me to let me know. She did no such thing.

If she had called and asked me if it was okay to schedule another client during my time slot, I would have been fine with that. But the fact that she did this without consulting with me, then lied about this is very upsetting to me. She also made a fool out of me, because I got so angry that I called the agency and left an irate message.

I feel as though she has betrayed my trust by lying to save her own butt. I would appreciate any input. Thanks in advance.

[unaluna]

It sounds like you were rescheduling thru the agency, and she was rescheduling on her own. You werent rescheduling with her directly, correct? So maybe the agency's schedule and her personal schedule arent the same actual computer schedule.

Sounds like a scheduling/communication glitch. They happen unfortunately, but it doesn't sound like the therapist was blatantly setting out to hurt you. You can certainly leave a therapist at any point, but if all other things are well, this doesn't sound like something I would fire a therapist over.

[Love Your Suit]

Sounds like, a case of the Mondays...

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T has her own private practice, so she does all of her own scheduling. Yet for our first session, she double booked me. She scheduled my appt at the same time as a client who had standing appts. She said it was because her calendar didn't sink with her phone.

I was ready to quit then and there. I was just betrayed by ex-T and now this T was inconsistent. But everyone in my life convinced me it was just a mistake and to give her one more shot. I'm glad I did because she has turned out to be a good T.

Mistakes happen, and it's unfortunate when they do. But they're not done on purpose. Maybe this is one of those times where it's a mistake and you chalk it up to human error?

[~Christina]

I wouldn't leave my T over this situation , unless it continues to happen.

Integrity in a T is really important to me. Like you, I would feel really upset if I felt a T lied to me about something like this. I feel that I go to therapy to be absolutely honest with myself and my T. I expect the same from her about the things we talk about - I expect an honest response from her, and this has to be reflected in all our interactions together. Hugs.

[ruh roh]

Yeah. Sounds like a basic miscommunication. I'm guessing that you called the agency and scheduled before she knew about it and scheduled someone else; she realized the crossed wires, and called to ask you to reschedule. She probably didn't mention that she was talking about the new appt that needed to be rescheduled. So you were thinking she was talking about the original appt.

Even if none of it happened that way, you can maybe see (and allow for) other possibilities here than her being dishonest?