If you could spend a day with your T.....

still thinking paintball.

If I had a day with him, I'd go to a retreat so I could get everything out in a tranquil place and he could bathe me and give me a massage to release it all, then he could hold me all night in a huge soft bed

I had a dream the other night, when I was missing her, that we met in a boarding house and chatted, then held hands in such a comforting way.

If I could have a day in person (our therapy is online/phone/long distance) I would have tea with her, we both appreciate a good cup, I'd get hugs in person, hold hands for a little bit, take a walk through the famed gardens in her city and maybe listen to music together, we have similar taste and find our shared songs very powerful.

Sumo Suit Fight

We are in the same awful boat apparently
My therapist has two sons as well. It's painful enough to think of her with them. If she had a daughter it'd be excrutiating and I probably would have quit.

I think if just prefer to stay in our room, chatting.

Walking near to see when there is no one else, sitting there, talking, touching, kissing etc...

I think I would want to go to a adventure forest/climbing forest. Not sure how you call it. And a nice lunch, talking about her. I would like to know her.

With pdoc: I would want to do things that he's interested in. Or just stay in his bed all day (talking, cuddling, kissing, sex).

I am sorry you are hurting over it. It sucks, I know. Thank you for sharing. Its nice to know you are not alone even though it would be better if these feelings did not exist.

I don't think I would like to spend the whole day with her maybe just see her in her normal surroundings for awhile. I would like to see where she lives and the inside of her house, her favorite colors. It would be nice to talk about things and hear her honest opinion on them instead of the one-sided conversation in therapy.

Reading through this thread has made me realize how much about my T that I really do know. Interesting.

And I want a hug! Or two! How could I forget to mention?? A long hug like the one he gave me when we said goodbye. That was the best hug I ever had.

We would take a long walk, have a picnic, and finish up with a nice dinner and drink. We'd talk about her work and study and family. I'd want as much time getting to know her as possible.