[Chuva]

Hi guys,

I have been seeing my pdoc for 2 years and I really liked him until some months ago, when he changed my diagnosis and subsequently started messing with my meds, adding this and that, playing with dosages, etc. I've been seeing my T for a year and I liked her at first, but not anymore, because I find she cannot help me anymore. She wants to solve everything with EMDR, like it was some sort of magic wand, while I don’t like it a bit. She also does MBCT but is “obsessed” with EMDR. In short, I don’t like her anymore, I feel she’s helped sort out what my problems are, but not how to put a remedy on them.

This said, I have decided some time ago to go to a highly specialized center in Rome, where I already had an interview with a pdoc and did some personality and mood tests. I have yet to go back again to the pdoc so that he can give me the ultimate diagnosis and advice on the therapy I should do. However, he has already suggested I do DBT there in Rome (it’s the best center for DBT in Italy and there are no DBT therapists in my area anyway), which I am very inclined to do in the end.

In any case I’ll be moving house and city in September and it would be natural for me to decide to stop seeing my current pdoc and T.

Now my question is: should I tell them I don’t want to see them again because I want to go to Rome to get therapy, or should I just fire them without explanation? I feel quite guilty for not having talked about this with them both, but my bf tells me that’s just because I see them more as confidants than as professionals. He might be right.

What do you think I should do?

[ThisWayOut]

there's no obligation to tell them why you are leaving if you are not happy with services. That said, if you want to tell them, by all means do so.

[healingme4me]

There might be fewer burned bridges, to simply and politely explain that you are moving. Thank them, for their time. Wish them well.

[Perna]

Yes, I would just tell them you are going to be "working" in Rome so won't have the time for here, but "thanks for all your help." Ciao :-)

[ruh roh]

I don't think it matters one way or the other, especially since you would not go back to either. Which would make you feel the most at ease?

[unaluna]

Good advices here! My question would be, not so much what is your easiest way out, but what would give you the most opportunity for growth? Like in how to handle a difficult situation? Ideally, they should be willing to help you, but maybe that is asking for too much.

[stopdog]

I don't think you owe them an explanation. Which would make you happier?

[Chuva]

Thanks everybody.

The problem is exactly that I feel I owe them an explanation, though I don't know why. Like I've been doing something behind their back, although deep inside I know I was perfectly free to do what I did.

I will try not to tell them and just say goodbye in a peaceful way, let's see if I'm able not to spoil everything.

Originally Posted by Chuva

Thanks everybody.

The problem is exactly that I feel I owe them an explanation, though I don't know why. Like I've been doing something behind their back, although deep inside I know I was perfectly free to do what I did.

I will try not to tell them and just say goodbye in a peaceful way, let's see if I'm able not to spoil everything.

You won't spoil everything. And even if you did, that's your right as a customer (client).

[divine1966]

I think polite way is to tell them that you are going to see different t and pdoc and that you are moving and good bye. Simply leaving is rather rude imho and it isn't my style of doing things. You can always tell the truth too that you don't feel satisfied with their service. But just silently leaving is not proper way of handling life imho

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[Chummy]

Originally Posted by Chuva

Thanks everybody.

The problem is exactly that I feel I owe them an explanation, though I don't know why. Like I've been doing something behind their back, although deep inside I know I was perfectly free to do what I did.

I will try not to tell them and just say goodbye in a peaceful way, let's see if I'm able not to spoil everything.

You should do what's best for you. How do you want to say goodbye? It will be the last time you see them, so if there's anything you want to say, that's the only time you can say it.
But if you're fine with only telling them it's because you're moving, then that's fine too.