In what ways does your T provide you with comfort

This might sound strange but her eyes teared up when I described a painful incident. It was a comfort to know she was feeling what I was. Otherwise her affect is a bit flat and it's hard to tell if she understands/cares. Regarding touch -- Which is important form of comfort --'I'd find it a comfort to sit next to her or take her hand briefly when we hit a rough spot, but she wouldn't allow that. Every T is different obviously.

I think I would be extremely touched if my T shed a tear with/for me. I miss her sitting by me very much, and putting her arm around me while I cried. I wish I could have that part of her back.

Just today I found comfort in t allowing me to call, taking time out of her busy day, and genuinely reminding me I will get through this rough patch... I was so sure she thought I was annoying and crossing boundaries because I called after we had ended, but she seemed ok with offering support...
sometimes it's just knowing that a t does not believe the same things about me that I do.

Today my T shed a tear while I was talking about something tough and painful. I feel terrible that I made her hurt as well. I do feel more connected to her that she shared the pain I was in.

That's awesome. Someone cried for me once in my life...and as hard as that was, it also made me feel SO GOOD that someone cared that much. I know my connection would get a lot deeper if I ever saw my T with just one tear. Of course, it's possible she has, I wouldn't know since I don't face her in session.

seeing my t tear up while I was talking made me so paranoid. I wasn't sure if she was triggered, or feeling sad about what I was telling her. I didn't ask, so I needed to sit with that uncertainty...

Today, not for the first time, she spent extra time with me because she knew we were covering something important and tough. That was very comforting, the sense of having the space I needed to work through an issue.

He validates my feelings. He gives me helpful feedback. He is non-judgmental.

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I asked my T if she was tearing up when I was talking and she said yes. She said she was picturing what it would feels like to be in the amount of pain I am in. It has made our connection so much deeper even though it killed me to see her like that. Please ask her about it. It might make your therapy better.

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She actually listens.

we are done now... I don't think I would have the courage to ask b/c I fear the answer of her being triggered more than I fear the answer of her crying for/with me...

What about that answer helped deepen the relationship? Was it a greater sense of care? or somethign else?

I didn't know you were finished with her.

The fact that she was shedding a tear for me and in a way feeling the pain I was in made our connection deeper because she "gets it". She really gets how I was feeling. She was sharing emotion with me.

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