Do you ever feel like you stated something too strongly and therapist gets it wrong?

No. He never said anything that would cause me to think that he misinterpreted something I said. I think he understands me....uh...well I thought he did.

Usually I feel like I have stated something too strongly when I tell him a past experience and he responds by saying that it shouldn't have happened, I deserved better, or the other person should have acted differently. At that point I feel as though I have overstated my case because really, it was not all that bad, and I am strong enough to have dealt with it, so it's not like there's a problem.

Rationally, I (grudgingly) understand that his reaction is likely the more appropriate one. But there is a part of my brain that just CANNOT fully grasp that concept just yet.

Your T's reaction is not necessarily the "more appropriate" one. I can't believe you said that. T's are not the almighty (as much as some of them wish they were). Don't ever believe them over yourself.

I am in no danger of believing my T is almighty. I believe he is a source of information and that he provides me with a different perspective to consider.

I am aware that I minimize. I will say things about being sexually abused by my uncle, or neglected by my mother, followed up by saying those things weren't really a big deal. Objectively, if I evaluate the details of the situation and disregard my "ehh, it's fine" feelings about it... yeah, something went very wrong during my childhood. My (lack of) emotional response is the factor that is not in line with the situation.

It's been rare, but it has happened. I kind of think that there are certain things that can trigger strong reactions in therapists. For example, if a client 'understates' abuse. So one downplays something therapists generally think is serious, they might make a bigger deal out of it than the client feels is necessary... i.e. the client has found a way to make peace with it.

I haven 't had that happen, but I don't hide my emotions very much. I actually wish I were better at it and could be less revealing with my expression

I've never had an over reaction. More like an under reaction. Except when I described something my brother did, t was emphatic that it absolutely wasn't normal childhood behaviour.
So I guess it depends on what I'm talking about.
Sometimes I don't say much because I don't want things reported or get chucked in hospital.

I often have the opposite problem. I have a penchant for understatement. Mostly this happens with my mood, or when trying to explain how something has impacted me in huge way. I have trouble expressing how I'm actually feeling. I either look too happy/balanced, or deliver it so flat that the true impact of it is lost.

About your question around language though, I've noticed certain language illicits a stronger response, even when not intending to do so.. I think it's a combination of social attribution of meaning, and also the t's experiences around it all. I had described some things to a t that specialized in sexual abuse/assault. She used stronger language for those events than I would have attributed to it at the time (though I understand it in the terms she used, in the moment it felt too intense). I'm guessing if I had described those same events in the same context to a t that was not trauma focused, it would likely not have been described in those terms.

Sometimes it seems like they over-react because of how understated they judge me to be.

Sorry Stopdog, I wish they understood you better, or gave you the sense that they did.

Indeed, they need only appear like it.

I've had similar to TWO, that the T has labelled something much more strongly than I ever did.
It was so hard to hear. But she is right.

I'm sending you a "not-hug." Maybe more like a half-assed commiserating nod/scowl.

I get caught in the emotion and moment and often speak in hyperbole.

I used to feel that about my first T, but not my current T.

Yes, T used to say I have flat affect. I worked on that though. Now T keeps saying I don't have emotions or at least not many. She also thinks my "trauma" history is a bigger deal than I think it is which is why I don't bring up everything.

Yes, a lot of the time, things I think are a big deal and t doesn't and other times I will just say something offhand and she will make a big song and dance about it. I think that they get it wrong a lot

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Well Therapists are only human and in my opinion I do believe you can tell your therapist exactly what you are saying in here. Clarify it with your T.

Wishing you good health and good luck.

Not really the point and I most assuredly did not ask for advice.