I used to think going to therapy was "bad," because my parents said only "crazy" people go to therapy. I think mental illness is more accepted than when I was little, and my parents might have thought differently if I grew up in these times.

I'm not used to talking about my deepest worries and issues to other people, and it took months for me to finally build up the courage to see a therapist. And when I finally did, I was shaking much of the time as the therapist asked me about my life.

After the therapy session was over, I left very unhappy. Not just because it was uncomfortable talking about my issues, but because the therapist belittled what I went through, such as looking away and checking out stuff around the room looking bored when I was crying or talking about my past, they mentioned many times that others had it worse than me, they made comments about how long I was taking, almost yelled at me when I left, and other issues. It went badly.

I believed I really should try again, with a different therapist. So, after building up my courage all over again, I went to a therapist who did seem kinder, but sadly they kept trying to change the topic to trivial matters, avoided my attempts to talk about deeper issues, reworded my biggest worries as tiny, insignificant issues I'm not worried about much at all, and other problems. It was also a bad session.

For now, I give up, but I will try later with another therapist. I worry I might be a real wreck that no one wants to deal.

I guess I'll stick to self-help for now. I think I'm smart enough.

[Leah123]

I hope if you try again, you will give a printout of this post to the therapist to give them insight into what went wrong and what you need.

Hope things get better for you.

It's sad how ignorant and unhelpful most therapists are.

[iheartjacques]

Can't believe you got two dodgy ts in a row

[iheartjacques]

If you're paying them, they should listen.

[nottrustin]

I am sorry it went so badly for you. One thing though when you said she looked away and at other things when you cried that very well could have been something other than her being bored. My T does this occasionally as well. She knows I get uncomfortable when I even start to get teary eyed. So she looks away so I have space and feel less self conscious. I think I lot of therapists do this because a lot of people don't like being watched when that vulnerable.