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Has anyone here ever suspected that their T had survived CSA? Did you bring it up?

my t brought it up first i think

[RedSun]

I don't know what my Ts experience is, but she's described herself as someone who's been there, ie suffered in some way. I wouldn't ask. I think I'd like to know though, but I don't know why.

No. Two of the ones I have seen were not abused as children. I would not see someone who was a survivor of that.

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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987

I would not see someone who was a survivor of that.

Why not ?

Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987

No. Two of the ones I have seen were not abused as children. I would not see someone who was a survivor of that.

And how would you know if they didn't tell you?

[junkDNA]

i dont think so but i would never ask. hes told me about some of his struggles but not child abuse

I am training to be a T and I have a history of CSA. I don't think I would disclose it to a client even if asked. I feel like that information has the potential to be destabilising for either me or the client. I would certainly take it to supervision if I thought it was interfering with my work in any way but I'd like to think the effectiveness of my own therapy would make me self-aware enough for it not to be an obstacle.

[stopdog]

I don't know but I can't imagine I would care one way or the other. I assume there is something gruesome in her past that made her want to be a therapist in the first place. It does not really matter to me what it was.

[JaneTennison1]

Ex T? yes I think so but she never said and I would never ask. None of my business and has no place in the therapy room.

[Thinkbait]

Mine was. She told me that she was. But it wasn't random, it was very relevant to our discussion, she picked the exact perfect moment and she did it for my benefit. It made me feel like she understands me and what I go through and it gave me hope that she can help me learn how to cope.

[AllHeart]

My t just up and told me. Freaked me out at first but then I was happy to have someone who fully understands what I am dealing with.

[Favorite Jeans]

I had a T once who disclosed rather unnessarily and randomly that she'd been sexually abused by her brother in law. It was during a discussion about boundaries with family members occasioned by me bringing up an incident in my family that was nowhere near sexual abuse in its severity.

This had the effect of making me feel that my issue (overbearing relatives) was either relatively unimportant or that she was making a mountain of a molehill by comparing it to sexual abuse. I was also left with the distinct impression that she had not done enough therapy of her own.

I can imagine that it could be quite a powerful moment in therapy for T to make a disclosure like that. I don't think it's always necessarily inappropriate. But I do think it's dicey--the sort of therapeutic boundary crossing that merits a lot of reflection on the part of the therapist.

[nottrustin]

No she was not. She has come right out and told me when I was telling my story. However, she has said she was at least emotionally abused by her mom.