[AuroraBorealis75]

My therapist just called and asked if I can come 1/2 an hour later as something urgent has come up that she needs to take care of. I'm scared she is going to be distracted and not be able to fully be there when I need it most. I really can't take much more. I'm so scared she's going to call back and cancel altogether.

[Daystrom]

I hate when this sort of thing happens. Makes me shy about talking about anything heavy too, for fear she won't really be listening.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

During my last session with my T she was distracted and not fully there. My session suffered because of it. I wish she would have rescheduled (her son started school that day) so that I could have had my session with her being fully present.

[AuroraBorealis75]

Yeah, and I have heavy stuff I NEED to talk about. I've been holding it in for over 2 weeks, and I can't hold it in anymore. And I have major abandonment issues.

Originally Posted by Daystrom

I hate when this sort of thing happens. Makes me shy about talking about anything heavy too, for fear she won't really be listening.

[Daystrom]

I would tell her about this worry, make it clear before you tell her anything else that this is too important and you need her undivided attention.

[AuroraBorealis75]

I'm afraid I am going to arrive at her office a complete puddle of tears and snot.

[Crescent Moon]

Tell her exactly what you said in your post. It will 'ground' her. I know if it was my therapist and I said that, any distractions running around in her mind would get pushed to the back and she would pull it all together. And we'd probably end up having one of those absolutely totally attuned sessions that I love so much. So give it a try - you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain.

[AuroraBorealis75]

What if something really bad happened? What if someone died? What if her husband was in a helicopter crash?

I doubt it is anything that huge. She'd just cancel in that case.

[AuroraBorealis75]

I feel so guilty because I am just going to add to her stress today.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by AuroraBorealis75

What if something really bad happened? What if someone died? What if her husband was in a helicopter crash?

Those things would take more than half an hour! Are you trying to steal my comedian job??

[RedSun]

She might just be getting her car mended...

I think she really would have cancelled if someone was very ill, or similar. She would know that it's not ethical to have a session with you if she would be so distracted, also I'm sure she would cancel if she were needed elsewhere. Don't worry. It's your time. Good luck!

[Daystrom]

Originally Posted by AuroraBorealis75

I feel so guilty because I am just going to add to her stress today.

Anytime I'm tempted to feel that kind of guilt (and I do) I just remind myself what I'm paying her per hour.

Originally Posted by AuroraBorealis75

I feel so guilty because I am just going to add to her stress today.

Urgent doesn't always mean stressful, nor does it necessarily have to be something terribly personal. And if it is only making a half hour delay, I doubt it is a terribly huge deal -- just time contingent.

[Crescent Moon]

Originally Posted by AuroraBorealis75

What if something really bad happened? What if someone died? What if her husband was in a helicopter crash?

She would not ask for a 30 min. delay for something that drastic!

And ya know, there was a few week period of time that my therapist seemed 'off' - distracted - not as she usually was with me. Of course, I thought it was about me. She was withdrawing because she lost interest or something. That sent me into a downward spiral. She noticed that. When I finally told her (with great trepidation) the changes I'd noticed, she finally told me that her sister had attempted suicide and she had been dealing with that crisis during that time period. In a really strange way, I was so relieved. But she immediately pulled it together and everything got back to 'normal' for me with her. I ended up telling her that she wasn't as successful at preventing it from affecting me as she thought she was. And that it would be better for me to know that she had a family crisis going on so that I wouldn't think it was *me*. So we made an agreement that in the future she would warn me that she might not be herself.

[spring2014]

hi angel,
I had happened to me twice w my therapist . she push my time with her cuz she had a doctor's appointment at 1:00 . she was very considerate and let her receptionist to tell me that she was on her way to the office . that was the day I had a very bad panic attack by the time I got to the office I started breathing very bad and my heart was pounding so much the receptionist told me to go and lie down on the couch and do my breathing exercises before she came into the office . other time when my therapist called me is when she was late by five minutes for my session w her. it s always a timing issue and she gives me the house long session that she being paid for by Medicaid .







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[AuroraBorealis75]

Okay, so I was totally overreacting and freaking about nothing. I just was already really stressed because of planning to tell my therapist about my romantic feelings and all that ****. But she took it really well and told me that if in this process I do figure out that I am gay, it's not the end of the world. I couldn't read my letter to her because it was just too much, so I gave it to her to read, and she said she thought that's what was coming and even though she is a Christian she doesn't think it's wrong to be gay and she even hugged me at the end of the session and she told me that she's not going to abandon me and that things my mom has said to me about body hair and being lesbian were just plain mean.

[Daystrom]

Glad to hear it went well.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by AuroraBorealis75

Okay, so I was totally overreacting and freaking about nothing. I just was already really stressed because of planning to tell my therapist about my romantic feelings and all that ****. But she took it really well and told me that if in this process I do figure out that I am gay, it's not the end of the world. I couldn't read my letter to her because it was just too much, so I gave it to her to read, and she said she thought that's what was coming and even though she is a Christian she doesn't think it's wrong to be gay and she even hugged me at the end of the session and she told me that she's not going to abandon me and that things my mom has said to me about body hair and being lesbian were just plain mean.

Aw, I'm glad she responded to you so positively! It was very brave of you to share your thoughts. How are you feeling now?