letting your kids sleep with you

StressedMess · Sep 14, 2015, 03:22 PM

I don't have any children of the opposite gender, but if I did, I would totally let them sleep in my bed. My daughter is 18 and still comes to my bed some nights with nightmares/PTSD flashbacks. She's always welcome, and I would feel horrible if she felt ashamed to seek out my reassurance.

Parent your children your way, not society's way!

Gavinandnikki · Sep 14, 2015, 03:29 PM

My 14 year old daughter slept with me last night. I've had a lot of family drama lately - my sister died, my 94 year old Mom is taking it as expected, my Dad in an Alzheimers home is taking it as expected and my paranoid schizophrenic brother is his usual.

I felt better, comforted and had the best sleep in 2 weeks.

So it was good for us.

PeeJay · Sep 15, 2015, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by musinglizzy

So during my last session, I asked my T if she thought it was inappropriate to let my son (13) sleep with me once in a GREAT while. He was sick last week, and not sleeping well...and was just a bit needy, and I let him sleep with me. Someone who lives with us doesn't think it's "right." Sometimes my son will ask to watch a movie with me in my room, and we'll just fall asleep for the night. (PJs on, the dog usually laying between us). So my T said if it didn't feel comfortable, and we were clothed, she didn't see an issue with it. My male housemate, once I told him that, said "ask her if she'd feel the same way if it was a dad sleeping with his teenage daughter."

I know this post is kind of different from what we usually see on PC... but I'm wondering your thoughts. I see no issue with it, it happens VERY rarely, and I actually like that my son still feels close to me in that way. So it's only happened twice this whole year. I agree with what my T said, but my male housemate doesn't seem to agree. I'm sure my son doesn't go to school saying he slept in the same bed with his mom....he's very standoffish with friends around, as many are that way. But when it's just he and I, if he's not feeling well, he's still a big baby...lol.

So your thoughts? Anyone on here allow their young teenage (opposite sex) children sleep with them after a bad dream or if they're sick? I never thought twice about it until my housemate said something. I have not seen my T to ask her that question...about male adults vs. female kids.

Sleeping next to family, including children, is one of the joys of my life. I love snuggling and waking up with the sun and the birds.

Asian and African cultures share beds. It's totally natural and normal for humans to want physical closeness.

Do what's best for your family. Life is too short to worry about what anyone says about it.

magicalprince · Sep 15, 2015, 01:41 AM

I don't know.. I rarely even hugged my mom by the time I was 13. Maybe my perspective is all messed up. My mom had bpd and was really inappropriate, she openly talked to her kids about her sex life and stuff, so yeah I would have been very uncomfortable.

But if it feels innocent and nobody's forcing or pressuring it or anything it's probably fine

secretgalaxy · Sep 15, 2015, 08:47 AM

I am 18 and I have severe nightmares and am still weary about the dark. I slept with a nightlight until the age of 14 because my night terrors and sleep paralysis was so bad I was petrified of the dark. My family lives in a 2 bedroom apartment so me and my mom slept in the same room with different beds until a year ago, when she moved to the living room on the futon and I got a queen bed in my room. My brother (28) sleeps in the other room.

If I wake up screaming, she will sometimes come and sleeps with me for the rest of the night. Sometimes we watch movie together and fall asleep on my bed until morning. Having her with me, I have a much better sleep and am much more relaxed. I don't know how I will survive if I moved out one day, haha.

I find nothing wrong sharing a bed with someone you care about. It isn't a nightly thing, just out of the blue and that is fine, IMO.

Cinnamon_Stick · Sep 15, 2015, 09:46 PM

I don't have kids but I think its really nice that all of you comfort your kids and let them sleep in bed with you. I wish I had had comfort like that or any kind for that matter when I was growing up.

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