My T is ALWAYS 100% professional, but the longer we work together, the less formal he is when we communicate through email. It almost feels like we communicate with each other the way friends would do. I know we are not friends (and never will be), but it's a nice feeling to get a glimpse of what T is probably like outside the office. Have any of you experienced anything like this?

[stopdog]

The therapist has done it but I did not like it at all. For me, I prefer the formality and want the therapist to not be relaxed.

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by twistedangel00

My T is ALWAYS 100% professional, but the longer we work together, the less formal he is when we communicate through email. It almost feels like we communicate with each other the way friends would do. I know we are not friends (and never will be), but it's a nice feeling to get a glimpse of what T is probably like outside the office. Have any of you experienced anything like this?

Not on email (although one did use an emoticon on email once, which threw me), but in session, both of mine have started behaving this way to some degree. I suspect that because it is so obvious I don't really trust them, that this is a ploy to lull me into a sense of security.

Also, I think this is natural in any ongoing relationship. I am not friends with many of my colleagues, but even the ones I'm not friends with, our relations grow more friendly over time.

[Salmon77]

Yes, my T has gotten more forthcoming, more likely to tell stories about himself. I think it's a natural progression in any kind of relationship.

[Sawyerr]

Mine has gotten less formal through the time, too. It gives me a good feeling, because if I have in mind that we're strangers, than there's no way I could ever trust her. Being informal makes her somehow familiar to me. I don't know.

[qwertykeyboard]

yeah we use emojis when we text, and shes self-disclosed a lot more recently. i like it, it makes her feel like a human

[PinkFlamingo99]

Over time my unethical ex-T got more and more like this. Started telling me she loved me more, etc.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

There are times like my session yesterday that my T seems more like a friend to me. We can laugh and joke and she will tell me something about herself if she thinks it helps. I like it. I also like when she is more like a T.

My t has always been informal and also open about her life, in person and on the phone and on email.

[Ellahmae]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

My t has always been informal and also open about her life, in person and on the phone and on email.

Mine too.

["Tilly may"]

I couldn't have handled it if my T was informal. I was nutty about her. It would have been dangerous.