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I am afraid of my therapist and that's a problem. 14 19.18%
I am afraid of my therapist and that's a problem.
14 19.18%
I am afraid of my therapist and that's not a problem. 2 2.74%
I am afraid of my therapist and that's not a problem.
2 2.74%
I am not afraid of my therapist and that's a problem. 0 0%
I am not afraid of my therapist and that's a problem.
0 0%
I am not afraid of my therapist and that's not a problem. 57 78.08%
I am not afraid of my therapist and that's not a problem.
57 78.08%
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 09:37 PM
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Are you afraid of your therapist?
And is that a problem for you?
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 09:40 PM
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I'm afraid of my t because I always worry that I'm not a good client and also I'm worried about what t would make me do even when I don't want to.
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 09:41 PM
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Why would I be afraid of either of them? I'm pretty sure I could easily overpower both of them, even in my current weakened condition. At once. With one hand tied behind my back.

If you mean afraid of what they might do or say, well, this is where their opinions not mattering too much to me helps.

So, um...it's not a problem for me?
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 10:00 PM
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I'm working out some trauma stuff with T right now, and that means admitting that I am afraid of him. It's stuff I have pretended wasn't there the whole time we have worked together. But it feels really good to get it out in the open.
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 10:05 PM
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My T makes me nervous because of the intense work we do.
Never has she made me afraid.
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 11:02 PM
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I was afraid of my past T that had the pet rock that she would talk to during my sessions. Never have I been afraid of my current T.
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Old Nov 09, 2015, 11:23 PM
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I used to be afraid of EVERYBODY. I let an eight year old girl trick me into letting her beat me at a racewalk so she wouldnt be last. She goes past me, then goes, "nyah nyah!" I figured, i have enough; if somebody needs something so bad they want to steal it from me - then let them have it. Thats just being afraid of people. Being afraid of FOO. And the resultant transference to the effing WORLD.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 01:36 AM
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I'm very afraid of being hurt
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 02:17 AM
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Afraid of being abandoned by my therapist.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 02:45 AM
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Hell no. He's just a nice old guy who I pay to listen to me for an hour a week. Nothing to be afraid of.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 04:18 AM
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Yes I think a part of me is, and I've realised that I was afraid of my parents when I was very young.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 04:52 AM
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I am terriffied of him, less so now after 5 years. I find him physically intimidating as he is well over a foot taller than me. But most of all i am afraid of the words. People in the past have manipulated me with words until I didn't which way was up. People go on about the payment for a service as a power differential i think the real power is in words and feelings both off which I lack. I should say the lack of using words to express feelings. It keeps me from fully trusting him nut he kkknos that.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 08:53 AM
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I'm not really afraid of my T or pdoc. I am sometimes afraid for their reactions or what they must think of me. Though I know they would probably react good to almost everything I'd tell them.

A few years ago I had a group T and she was scary. She could be pretty harsh. I stayed away from here when I could.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 09:07 AM
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Why would I be afraid of my therapist? He's just a pretty regular guy.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 09:42 AM
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I've never been physically "afraid" of any therapist I've ever seen . . . Of course, more than a few times, I've felt a bit uncomfortable because I realized they were crazier than I was, but never afraid.

I do often feel nervous about how my therapist is going to judge or interpret what I'm saying, but when this happens, I always realize afterwards that this is usually my own issues exerting their influence on how I feel--I am the kind of person who needs external validation to feel okay about myself and this often leads to me censoring what I'm saying in therapy. Not a very productive behavior when you think about therapy works. . . I really do need to work on that if I ever hope to make any significant progress in therapy!
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 09:46 AM
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Therapy scares the **** out of me, but I am in no way afraid of T.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 09:59 AM
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Right now I'm too depressed and apathetic to be afraid of anyone.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 11:05 AM
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I wouldn't be able to work with T if I were afraid of her, so no I'm not afraid of T. I will say that there are times that I'm hesitant when speaking with her because I'm anxious about what her reaction will be to what I might say. However, she's proven over time that she will remain calm and supportive, so that has helped quite a bit.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 02:20 PM
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I am not afraid of her per se, but I do get afraid that she'll finally realize I am too much for her, or be so frustrated with me that she'll kick me out-though my T does know these fears.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 03:10 PM
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I'm not afraid of him, per se. I think he might be a little afraid of me, or at least he seems pretty chagrined about various insights I've expressed regarding the therapy process. I do have misgivings about whatever decisions he might be making in secret about my diagnoses or treatment needs, since even though I've expressed not having found that kind of treatment management to be helpful for me, I still have no sure way of knowing whether he's doing so. I suppose it could be construed as a fear of mine, but I think of it as more of a consideration.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 03:18 PM
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Yes and yes.

He has the potential to hurt me and do so much emotional damage......and I've allowed him this power.

Also if he snapped some day he has a height and weight advantage if he went for me, plus even in self-defense I don't think I could make myself hurt him.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 05:32 PM
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Yes and that's a problem, because I'm afraid of his reactions and emotions and that isn't supposed to be the case in therapy.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 06:12 PM
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I didn't realize it until it was too late (T was sick and dying) that ex-T did scare me a little. I think it was more that I felt ashamed to open up more with her than I did. I was afraid of her reaction. She never once actually made me feel bad for anything I said in therapy so all my fears were essentially made up in my head.
I am dealing with my current T differently and it is making all the difference.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 07:27 PM
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I voted no and that it's not a problem, but now I think I probably am afraid of being tricked, hurt and rejected.
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Old Nov 10, 2015, 11:09 PM
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Nope. I won't see someone I am afraid of. My t is harmless woman in her 60s. So not scary

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